Drew Barrymore Admits It's 'Very Devastating' She Doesn't Have a 'Traditional Family Dynamic' as a Mom

Drew Barrymore is getting candid about raising her daughters in a family of divorce.

On a Friday, March 21 episode of The Drew Barrymore Show, the actress, 50, spoke with Frank Zappa's daughter Moon Zappa about her new book, which centers on becoming a parent without a roadmap. As the two spoke about their family dynamics, Barrymore opened up about raising her two girls, Olive, 12, and Frankie, 10, with ex-husband Will Kopelman.

Barrymore began by asking, "Do you think that we also are so determined to be these capable moms, these accountable, these trustworthy...and did you beat yourself up about every little thing along the way?"

After Zappa responded yes, Barrymore elaborated on her personal feelings.

"Everything to me was very devastating and took me a long time to recover from if it wasn't in the traditional family dynamic that I swore I would do for my family because I did not grow up that way," she said.

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As they discuss not having stability in their home life, Barrymore recalled being jealous of other kids whose parents were more involved.

"It's weird stuff like that. It's soup when you're sick. I remember all the kids at school would go into the office to call their parents when they were sick and I could never get a hold of anybody," she said. "And I was so jealous of those kids who would call and be like, 'Mom, Dad, come pick me up.' I just would sit there and be like, 'What's that like.'"

In January, Barrymore appeared on an episode of The Late Show with Stephen Colbert and gave an update on her two young daughters and opened up about becoming a girl mom.

"They’re really, really good. Every day is different. Every hour is different. They’re my North Star, my compass," Barrymore said. "I love that in the life that I got to live before I knew them, my priorities were different. And ever since I came into the world, I understand what the purpose of my life is. It’s wild.”

Barrymore went on to add that when she learned she was having girls, she felt like she had to create a better childhood for her daughters than she had when she was young.

“I found out I was having a daughter with Olive, and I thought, ‘Oh right, ok karmically that makes sense.’ There’s a lot of, ‘Ok, I’m having a girl,' " she began.

"When I found out I was having Frankie, my second daughter, it humbled me in a way that I’ve never known and I’ll never forget the moment because I realized I was put on this planet to raise girls. And that everything in my life was captured and a butterfly net to try and get this right."

"If you don’t grow up in a perfect way with a perfect family, you fear the blueprint and you go, I want to do things differently. I felt unconfident, like this was the stakes of my life and it took a few years, honestly, to have that confidence," Barrymore said.

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