Divorce lawyer reveals why men should always pay on the first date

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A divorce lawyer has gone viral on TikTok after posting a video explaining the important reason why men should always pay on the first date.

Justin Lee, who describes himself as “the lawyer you never want to see”, said that the woman’s reaction to a man offering to pay for dinner can have a major impact on their relationship.

Divorce lawyer Justin Lee.
Justin Lee, a Toronto-based divorce lawyer, has explained why it’s so important that men always pay on the first date. Photo: TikTok/@jleejd

“Men should always pay on the first date, and get this, for our own good,” he said in the video.

“So let’s say at the end of the date, you pull out your wallet to offer to pay and your date just sits there, expecting you to pay as if that is the obvious course of action. In that moment, what did you just learn?

“You just learned that the person in front of you is entitled, and frankly, has the audacity to expect a near-stranger to pay for them.

“Just imagine how someone like that will treat their significant other, their spouse.”


The Toronto-based lawyer went on to say that the test should be taken very seriously and only costs “a low low price” of $20 to $40.

“You learn that the person in front of you does not have the basic courtesy to pretend to offer to pay, and therefore you should never go on another date with them,” he continued.

‘I won’t pretend anything’

The video ended up sparking quite a large debate in the comments section, with users arguing over whether or not women should be considered “entitled” if they don’t offer to pay.

“I expect my spouse to take care of me. I won’t pretend anything,” one person wrote, with another adding, “You should always pay because it tells us if you're gonna be a good provider”.

“Whoever asks for the date, pays,” someone else suggested, followed by a different user who said, “My advice for women is to order what you can afford yourself, and never assume the man will pay”.

“My ex was cheap on the first date and was also not a generous person. These small gestures show you who they are,” another shared.

A man paying on the first date.
TikTok users were divided over whether or not it’s important that the man pays on the first date. Photo: Getty

‘Missing the point’

It didn’t take long for Justin to address the divide in the comments and give a further explanation about what he meant.

“A lot of you are missing the point of the video,” he said. “It’s not about who actually ends up paying, as much as it is about respecting and appreciating the gesture.

“The payment isn’t the issue. The issue is when women perceive the payment as an obligation as opposed to a kind gesture. Entitled vs Appreciative. No one owes anybody anything!

“For the record, this isn’t gender specific - any man or woman who feels entitled in any way towards the other is a walking red flag.”

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