Just two months after calling it quits with Bachelorette star Angie Kent, Carlin Sterritt has opened up about the immense toll their public breakup took on his mental health, as well as his ex’s relationship with runner up Timm Hanly.
In the debut episode of new podcast How To… Life, titled “How To... Break Up In Front Of A Million People,” the personal trainer revealed that even though Angie, 30, chose him over Timm in the show’s finale, the two continued to stay in touch after the cameras stopped rolling.
“She really cared for Timm,” Carlin said. “They were kind of messaging a little bit afterwards,” he added.
Despite his attempts to ‘play it cool,’ Carlin admitted that Angie and 27-year-old Timm’s strong connection left him feeling very insecure.
“I was trying to play it cool, like, ‘It’s fine, you know, it’s all good’, and I was trying to be nice and I was trying to do the right thing.
“And then more and more, her and Timm messaging each other just started to really eat me away.”
Even though he ended up ‘being the guy that was chosen at the end,’ Carlin revealed that watching the season back with Angie only served to add to his self-doubt.
“It bred this insecurity in me that was kind of lying dormant that I hadn’t dealt with since my ex-wife,” he said.
Carlin and his ex-wife, Taran, tied the knot back in 2016 and, after ‘drifting apart, were mid-divorce when he appeared on The Bachelorette last year.
Even though he knew what he was getting himself into before deciding to go on the show, it was when the season had wrapped up that Carlin began to really struggle with his insecurities.
“I’m fine to be honest with that, that I had my insecurities and that’s something that I was getting therapy for,” he said.
Angie and Carlin’s ‘difficult run’
Also on the podcast, Carlin revealed how Angie’s post-Bachelorette stint on Dancing With The Stars with a ‘hot Italian dude’ as her dance partner made him question their bond even more.
“I’m like ‘oh man this is not easy. He’s a good looking dude!’” he said of Angie’s on-screen dance partner, Julian Caillon.
“She would train five hours a day with this guy, five days a week and then fly to Melbourne for four days and so I’m like, ‘You get to spend so much more time with this guy, I’m still feeling pretty shit about having just watched you mack-on with all these other dudes [on The Bachelorette],’” he added.
Carlin admitted that he ‘wasn’t ready for’ post-show life, meaning he and Angie ‘had a pretty difficult run’.
After much speculation, the pair announced they’d officially parted ways in July, something which filled Carlin with even more dread.
“There was a lot of fear and anxiety to let that news out because I just wasn’t sure what the outcome was gonna be or how slammed I was gonna get.
“Inevitably that’s what happened, people were like, ‘You should have chosen Timm’ or ‘See I told you this would only last this long.’ Having to deal with that is very hard.
“My mental health was struggling at that time. It was quite bad. It hit me a lot harder.”
He added that he no longer follows his ex on social media anymore because he doesn’t want ‘to see her stuff all the time’.
He also hosed down any suggestion that he’s ready to start dating again, saying, “I’m not ready to entertain it. I don’t have the energy. You won’t see me on dating apps.”
“I don’t want to bring any more shit into the next relationship and I feel like I kinda did that with Ange. When some of those insecurities and stuff came up, those trust issues, I was like ‘Oh man I really have brought this into this relationship’ and I did feel bad,” he explained.
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