Woman fuming after date asks for $60 back when she ditched him

Sarah Carty
·Lifestyle Editor
·3-min read

A woman has started a fierce debate online after sharing a text she got from a man asking her to reimburse him $60 (£35) for their dates.

The pair had obviously decided to not continue seeing each other after their third date, so he thought he would ask for payment for the dates they did go on.

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A woman has caused a fierce debate online over her date's actions. Photo: Getty Images

The woman was less than impressed with his messages, taking a screenshot of them and posting them to Twitter alongside the caption: “It’s the audacity for me.”

“Hi Alex hope you’re doing well. Would you mind letting me know what your Venmo is?” the man started his messages.

“The reason I ask is because since you and I won’t be seeing each other anymore it’s only fair to ask for equal payment from you from the dates we went on.


“I believe it was three separate times we went out bars/ restaurants where I paid for us both each time.

“I’d say $35 is more than fair for your food and drinks that I got you during those dates.

“I view you as a fair girl, I hope you’ll consider reimbursing me. Thanks!.”

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the man asked her to reimburse him for the amount he had spent on their dates. Photo: Twitter

While the women seemed to be fuming over the messages, many online didn’t see an issue with the man asking for his money back.

“I can’t see myself being this petty but what is the issue, he’s clearly broke and isn’t getting any value from you lol” one person said.

“Call me crazy but this seems fair to me. He invested time and money in a relationship and since the relationship was a waste of time, he doesn’t want it to be a waste of money,,.. if i could take back all the money i spent on ppl who left, i would,” another wrote.

However, others couldn’t get over the man’s request.

“The time to discuss who pays is when the check comes at the end of the night. I usually ask “do you want to split it?” And if they offer to pick up the whole tab I figure it’s their choice. To ask for reimbursement later is just tacky,” one person wrote.

“This is 100% reenforcing the behavior that men see dates as a transaction and when they receive “nothing” in return they act like a child who didn’t get their turn on the swing set,” another person wrote.

“People actually think this is fine? If you agree to pay for someone's meal during a date, you made that choice. It's not a reimbursable down-payment on future dates.If you cannot afford this, then be an adult and let them know and split the bill upfront,” a commenter wrote.

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