TikToker sparks backlash for list of sex gripes with wife: 'Disrespectful'

·4-min read

A TikToker has gone viral for writing a 'disrespectful' list of the reasons his wife doesn't want to have sex with him.

The user, who goes by @Joe_Drae on the app, shared a long list that has been viewed over 4.5 million times with some reasons including, "Did it last week," "No energy," "Back hurts," "You're drunk," and "Not in [the] mood."

TikToker slammed for list about wife
A TikToker has sparked backlash for writing a long list of 'excuses' his wife gives him for not wanting to have sex with him. Photo: TikTok/Joe_Drae

While he no doubt expected to receive a lot of laughs for his list, many TikTok users hit back at him with one user writing, "It's not her, it's you."

"Real reason: man helped with 0 house chores or kids," a second added.


"You shouldn’t even need a reason to say no, no is enough," a third said.

"Step it up and help her then, she wants a husband not a child," a fourth wrote.

"How incredibly disrespectful," someone else wrote. "Help your wife make her feel beautiful. Obviously you are doing something wrong."

"Add 'that TikTok you made' to that list," another joked.

Others defended him with one user adding, "Everyone is so pressed in these comments…it’s clearly meant to be a joke. Even better though how is everyone blaming him?!"

Many other men insinuated the list is the reason a lot of men cheat on their wives, or said it was grounds for divorce.

"Don't be mad when I'm getting it elsewhere," one man commented.

Woman slammed for 'controlling' list of rules for boyfriend

A TikToker has been branded 'controlling' after revealing a lengthy list of rules for her boyfriend. Photo: TikTok/thefreakshowcircus
A TikToker has been branded 'controlling' after revealing a lengthy list of rules for her boyfriend. Photo: TikTok/thefreakshowcircus

It comes after another TikToker was labelled a "psycho b***h" by her own friends for a list of rules she made for her boyfriend to follow.

"Controversial rules I make my boyfriend follow Instagram edition because I was telling my guy friends and they called me a psycho b***h," she began. "Disclaimer, almost every single one of my boyfriends has followed these rules."

She continued, saying the number one rule any potential boyfriends would have follow is to block anyone they'd had a romantic connection with in the past, including anyone they've just held hands with.

"No following new women since the day we started dating, period. I don't want to give an explanation," she said. "No searching girls' names in the handlebar like, what are you searching for? No but really what are you searching for? Because you should find it in me."

Natalia's fourth rule was that her boyfriends couldn't like any other girls' photos, adding, "Women don't like this, it's a slap in the face."

In a second video, she continued her rules, saying, "No story replying, we all know what story replies means, we don't have to talk about it!"

The TikToker added, "No more than one girl per scroll on his Explore page, I know that your Explore page is what you click on and you want to know how I know? Because one time I asked a guy to stop and he did and for the duration of our entire relationship there wasn't one girl on his Explore page, so I know that the rest of you guys are lying sacks of s**t!"

Another rule was that if a girl posts more than one bikini picture in a row, then he has to unfollow them.

"Lastly, no clicking on Linktree [link in bio] like adult films are free. And I can handle like giving other people attention... But your money. You're gonna give other women your money. No!"

Some viewers pointed out that Natalia mentioned that she had "guy friends", with one user writing that her having male friends was a red flag.

"Notice how she has guy friends, but the boy is not allowed to [have female friends]," one user wrote.

"I can see why these are controversial," another commented, while a third questioned, "This has to be satire, right?"

Never miss a thing. Sign up to Yahoo Lifestyle’s daily newsletter.

Or if you have a story idea, email us at lifestyle.tips@yahooinc.com.