Dolores Catania Defends Dorinda Medley's “Traitors” Outburst Because 'Emotions Are Not Rational in the Housewife World'

• Real Housewives Dolores Catania and Dorinda Medley competed on The Traitors season 3

• Traitors Bob the Drag Queen, Danielle Reyes and Carolyn Wiger murdered Medley first after she went off about how the first mission played out

• Catania said at the Traitors season 3 premiere party at N.Y.C.'s Club Cumming that fans "will be very surprised how things went" on the rest of the season

Dorinda Medley didn’t make it nice enough in the Traitors castle.

The Real Housewives of New York City alum, 60, expressed frustration with being left behind in the first mission of season 3, and as a result, the Traitors murdered her first.

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Medley’s fellow Housewife and Traitors castmate Dolores Catania also stayed behind in the first mission, but she handled things differently than the Real Housewives Ultimate Girls Trip star.

“I couldn't be mad at everybody because of my decision,” Catania, 54, told host Alan Cumming at the Traitors season 3 premiere party at Club Cumming in N.Y.C. “That's why I was a little quiet when Dorinda was yelling at everyone.”

Catania admitted she’d “made the mistake of challenging” Medley in the past and learned, “You have to let Housewives calm down first.”

“Is that true?” Cumming wondered. Catania then doubled down, explaining, “Yes, emotions are not rational in the Housewife world!”

Cumming followed up by asking how to proceed once a Housewife calms down.

“Then you tell them how you feel,” the Real Housewives of New Jersey star said. “Or get them drunk and you have some fun and you try to forget about what just happened. So you can have a job still.”

The mother of two described Traitors as “really hard.”

“At one point I said, ‘I think I have to go back to street smart school because I am floored,” Catania said. “You will be very surprised how things went.”

Season 3’s first mission required the contestants to paddle a rowboat together around the loch and capture a maximum of $40,000 while leaving two contestants at each of the five pontoon stops along the way. Catania and Medley, as well as fellow Housewives Chanel Ayan, Dolores Catania and Robyn Dixon and Sam Asghari, The Biggest Loser's Bop Harper, and Traitors Bob the Drag Queen and Danielle Reyes all volunteered to stay behind throughout the course of the mission in the Jan. 9 premiere.

The group ultimately decided that, with the time they had left, they’d be better served turning around and heading back to land with the $20,000 they retrieved rather than timing out in pursuit of the last $20,000. They made it back with half of the potential prize money, and assured safety from murder for all but eight players. The safe contestants headed back to the castle at the end of the mission while those on the pontoons awaited rescue.

When Medley finally got back to the castle with the other volunteers, she asked the group why they didn’t go for the last $20,000.

“We were all very tired,” Dylan Efron explained.

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Medley did not like that answer.

“You may be tired, but we may be murdered,” Medley replied. “You felt so bad they scarified the money for our lives. That’s how bad they felt. We’re eating what’s left over and we’re gonna be murdered tonight. The wild thing is, I didn’t even see an effort. When I was getting up, there wasn't even an echo saying, ‘No, no, let me go.’ And I would never have done what I did for the team if I knew it wasn't an all-in.”

Survivor’s Jeremy Collins pointed out that a Traitor might have volunteered to step off because they knew they wouldn’t be murdered.

“I don’t have an agenda,” Medley assured. “When I saw Dolores get off as a fellow Housewife, as a woman, someone that’s loyal, someone that’s a mama bear, someone that was working for the team…”

“Someone that could be a Traitor,” Lord Ivar Mountbatten jumped in.

Medley then called out the British royal, 61, for not moving “even remotely” to get off the boat during the mission.

“I put myself out to be murdered tonight,” Medley said. “If I do make it tonight, things change. I pray to God. Well, the Housewives show true. We were the first ones out. That tells everyone who we are.”

Medley did not make it, as Bob the Drag Queen, 38, Reyes, 52, and third Traitor Carolyn Wiger decided to kill the Bravolebrity, figuring it might implicate Mountbatten.

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During a YouTube livestream on Friday, Jan. 10, Bob the Drag Queen urged fans upset about Medley’s early elimination to “get over it.”

"We decided that Dorinda was gonna be our kill. This really pissed people off on the internet," the RuPaul’s Drag Race star said. "I don't know this woman. I don't know that she's this icon on Real Housewives. I don't know she's causing a scene. I have no clue who Dorinda is, so I'm like, 'Girl, kill her.' I don't know, let's pick someone, because they're all strangers to me."

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