Bride slams parents over 'unreasonable' wedding request: 'Unbelievable'

Her parents have been labelled as 'bullies' and 'self-centred' by Reddit users.

A bride has taken to Reddit to see if she's in the wrong after her parents demanded she change her sentimental wedding date, and she refused. Taking to Reddit's Am I the A**hole subreddit, the bride questioned other users about what they thought of her situation.

"My fiancé and I recently got engaged, and when looking at dates we realized our anniversary falls on a Saturday this year. Perfect right?" she began. "We immediately start planning because it’s approximately 9 months out and we have to move quick to pull a wedding together. We told everyone the potential date this weekend and all seemed well."

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A bride has slammed her parents on social media over their 'unreasonable' wedding request, with many saying they are 'gaslighting' her. Photo: Getty

She continued, "Monday I get a phone call from my father. He insists that I move the date because my mother has a yoga retreat that weekend. I tell him that this date means a lot to me and I would prefer to keep it if there is any way to move the retreat. There is, but it’s expensive. I offer to pay for this change out of my wedding budget, essentially halving the amount that I can spend on the most important event of my life."

The bride added that her parents told her they would not accept her offer and that she was expected to move to the wedding instead.


"I haven’t put money on my venue yet, so they think I should be fine with giving up the chance to marry on a date that means a lot to me," she explained. "It became a massive fight, and now my parents and I aren’t speaking. My father accused me of caring about a date more than I care about my mother. I told him that it felt as though they were choosing yoga over their own daughter."

Other users were quick to side with the bride, with one user writing, "OP's parents suck."

"NTA [not the a**hole] OP," another said, jokingly adding, "And if you really want them there but don't want to move the date, you should bring a couple of mannequins with printouts of your parents' faces taped onto them."

"You’d think if they did yoga, they’d be more flexible," a third quipped.

"Un-be-f***ing-lievable," one stunned user wrote.

"NTA - and the next time your parents invite you to something, tell them, 'Namaste at home,'" another joked.


"NTA. Your parents are being absurdly self-centered," someone else offered. "The polite thing for them to do would be to reschedule or cancel the retreat without ever telling you so as not to impinge on your wedding planning excitement."

"NTA - I know if my kid set her wedding date I'd cancel everything in my line of sight to be there! They're being completely selfish and unreasonable," another agreed.

Many others begged the bride not to let her parents "bully" her and keep the date that's special to her and her fiancé.

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