Bride slammed for not wanting groom's grandmother at wedding: 'Selfish'

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A bride-to-be has been lashed online after revealing she doesn't want to invite her partner's 98-year-old grandmother to their wedding as "it will be extremely loud" and she wants "a party atmosphere".

The 28-year-old woman took to Reddit, where she revealed that she and her fiancé are getting married next month but have gotten into a serious argument because of her request

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The bride's 'selfish' decision is being slammed online. Photo: Getty

“We’ve agreed to not have kids at our wedding, as we want the reception to be a huge party for our adult friends and family with dancing, loud music and an open bar," she explained.

"However, for precisely the same reasons that we don’t want kids there, I don’t want his elderly grandmother at our wedding either. I said she can come to the ceremony but not the reception.

"It will be extremely loud and I want it to be a party atmosphere, and she will be extremely out of place. For context, none of my grandparents are still alive, and he still has his last living grandmother."


Both her fiancé and his grandmother insist they will be fine, but the bride worries they will end up having to "take care" of her and she just wants "to get drunk and let loose with my friends".

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She said the grandmother is now 'really upset'. Photo: Getty

"She’s now really upset and won’t talk to me, and my fiancé is also angry. I think I am within my right to make this request, I am the bride after all," she wrote, before asking whether 'she was the a***hole?'.

The post has since gone viral and hundreds of Reddit users shared their horror over the bride-to-be’s 'selfish' attitude in the comments.

"I’d honestly reconsider marrying someone so selfish and disrespectful to my family," one person wrote.

"You realise [your fiancé] gets a say, too, right? Being the bride doesn’t give you ultimate veto power. And your wedding isn’t supposed to be about getting drunk with your friends, it’s about celebrating your relationship and being welcomed into your partner’s family," another pointed out. 

"So? He's the groom. Being the bride doesn't give you magical powers nor does it excuse rude behaviour," another agreed.

"I feel like 'f*** your grandma, I wanna party’ is a pretty serious red flag," one person said on Twitter when the post was shared, while the official Reddit Twitter account replied: "Justice for grandmother."

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