4 of the best female-focused sex toys to try in 2021

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If there was a vibrator-shaped sceptre and crown, I’d happily wear it – we should all be masturbating more and science agrees with me.

Whether masturbation is something you already love doing and happily talk about, or if it’s something you haven’t done but feel like you’d like to start exploring, there are a bunch of reasons to get to work on yourself, and there’s no better time to start than right now, during May’s Masturbation Month!

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There are so many benefits to a little bit of self love. Photo: Stock photo from Getty Images

There is no shortage of health benefits to be had from masturbating. According to an expert from sex toy retailer Wild Secrets, self-pleasure releases a whole wave of endorphins and hormones that work together to boost your mood and can even relieve pain from headaches, muscle soreness, and menstrual cramps.

A bit of self-loving for vagina-having people can also help keep your vagina healthy, our expert says, as it can increase the pH levels to prevent yeast infections and promote healthy flora, and she says, “post-climax urination can also reduce the risk of developing a urinary tract infection”.

Masturbating before bed can help you drift off with those same lovely calming and stress-relieving endorphins rushing through your body to help you get a better night’s sleep.


My suggestion is to really set the mood: think of it as a date with yourself, but minus the stress of having to get ready and thinking about how you’ll bail out if the person you’re with is rude or boring or you’re just not vibing. Put your phone down, maybe even light a candle, and just enjoy the time to yourself!

Beyond the physical effects, masturbation can also help your relationship with yourself. Think about it: you’re the only person who’s with you forever.

It’s important to take care of yourself, and that includes how you feel and think about yourself. Being intimate with yourself can really help you discover what you enjoy and what makes you feel the most pleasure which is so vitally important for building your sexual confidence.

Finding out what you enjoy alone can help you communicate what you enjoy with a partner, and that can only make things better.

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Go on a date with yourself! Photo: Getty

While doing things the ‘old-fashioned way’ can work for you, there are so many new toys to help bring your experience of self-pleasure to a climax.

Gone are the days of the sad plain coloured vibrator that you buried under books and other assorted mess in your bedside table – these days, the range of tools to help you experience your best orgasm is amazing, and doesn’t just focus on penetration to get things going.

We asked our expert at Wild Secrets for the top four sex toys for female pleasure, and this is what they said:

Recommended toys for female pleasure

When it's time to level-up your self-love session, everyone will have their own personal preferences. Though there’s a few pleasure tools that we think are essentials for every collection.

Clitoral stimulators are now more high-tech than ever, offering high-speed vibration, and stimulation via sonic waves or pulsing air that is designed to bring a woman to orgasm in literally minutes.

Our customers love the Satisfyer Pro 2 with Vibration.

Best vibrators for female pleasure
Best vibrators for female pleasure

For those looking for both clitoral and g-spot stimulation, the now-famous rabbit vibrator (thanks to that iconic Sex and the City episode) promises to get you to where you need to go.

We love the We-Vibe Nova for its modern and flexible shape that moves and adjusts with your body.

Best vibrators for female pleasure
Best vibrators for female pleasure

A trusty bullet vibrator is perfect for targeted external stimulation, and despite their small size can be incredibly powerful.

The Lelo Mia 2 is our must-have pocket rocket, offering strong vibrations that will have you seeing stars.

Best vibrators for female pleasure
Best vibrators for female pleasure

Finally, a classic massage wand offers a broad surface to explore with, offering deep and rumbly vibration where you want it most.

Wild Secrets recommends the Le Wand Petite for its easy-to-use cordless design, while remaining big on power!

Best vibrators for female pleasure
Best vibrators for female pleasure

While not a sex toy, a quality water-based lubricant is also oh-so important to have on hand. It reduces friction, enhances sensation, and is safe to use with most toy materials.

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