Woman distraught over sister's 'messed up' babysitting request

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A 20-year-old woman has taken to Reddit to share a sticky situation she's in with her sister, who expects her to be on call as her babysitter whenever she wants.

Taking to the Am I The A**hole subreddit, the poster shares that she has been her niece's babysitter for over a year, but her big sister refuses to pay her, even when she is forced to skip work in order to take care of the baby.

A woman has taken to social media to share her sister's shocking babysitting request. Photo: Getty
A woman has taken to social media to share her sister's shocking babysitting request. Photo: Getty

It gets worse though, with the woman writing that her sister is a stay-at-home- mum and could be home to take care of her daughter if she wanted to be. The poster also says that her brother-in-law works full time "and fully supports not paying me and doesn't think I should want to be paid for 'spending time with my niece'".

“My niece is a year and a half old and I’ve been my sister’s only babysitter since she was born,” she explained. “In the past week, I’ve babysat for five days. And it’s not just for an hour… Yesterday I was there from 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. I haven’t been home for more than a few hours (not sleeping) in days. 


"She made me get somebody to cover my shift at work today so I could babysit and does this often. She doesn’t allow me to eat any food at her house but I’m also not allowed to take my niece in the car (I’ve never been pulled over or in any accidents that I was driving), so my only option is to order delivery, which can get expensive.

"She’s told me in the past she’s going to start paying me but the only time she’s EVER paid me was over NYE where she paid $40 for babysitting over night. My sister just moved over 30 minutes away from me. I told her if she wants me to continue babysitting I’m going to need to be compensated for the time and money I’m spending in gas and food. She got really upset and told me that I shouldn’t want to be paid for spending time with my niece."

When the Reddit user asked for at least $10 an hour, the older sister decided to end their relationship.

The sisters are now fighting with the older sister telling the younger sister to
The sisters are now fighting with the older sister telling the younger sister to "delete my number". Photo: Getty

"I texted my sister and said 'look I love being able to see (my niece) as much as I do but I need to start getting paid for babysitting. I would’ve made $180 at work this weekend... I’m your only babysitter other than mom but mom barely babysits and I have been a few days a week. 

"'I want $10/hour. That’s lower than you’ll find from anyone else in (town she lives)' and she responded with 'K. I’ll find someone else.'"

"She pulled the 'you’re her aunt' card and said 'you didn’t ask to be paid, you demanded'. At this point I kinda lost my s**t and told her everything I have wanted to say for years and she said, 'We’re done. Delete my number'. Done."

Reddit users were left shocked at the whole situation.

"NTA... Your sister is taking advantage of you," one user commented. "This is not about spending time with your niece it is about her getting free childcare. You need to stop babysitting immediately."

"This is one of the worst cases of being taken advantage of that I’ve heard," another wrote. "She used you and wouldn’t even feed you or pay for your gas? Your sister is a massively huge AH. She’s very manipulative. You need to be very proud of yourself for standing up to her. She’s horrible. NTA."

"NTA you are being used," someone else wrote. "It is long past time to put an end to it. This has nothing to do with how much you care for your niece or sister. You should never compromise your job by not going to work for babysitting. Your sister needs to find proper daycare for her child."

"NTA she is treating you AWFULLY," another said. "Literally taking time away from your real job and your source of income and then not paying you back for this service, and then not even having the decency to let you eat food there or give you money to have food delivered? Start getting paid for the hours or drop the unpaid job asap."

"That’s messed up that your sister would say we’re done! Because you had a little argument? She is manipulating you," someone else wrote.

The poster also shared in the comments that she and her boyfriend are looking to move "as far away as we possibly can" because she's so "exhausted" from dealing with her sister, but added she'll miss her niece. 

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