Yahoo Lifestyle Wedding Guests Are Sharing The Most Entitled Demands Brides And Grooms Made On Their Big Day, And I Cannot Believe The Audacity
We recently asked the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the most unreasonable requests and demands entitled couples made for their wedding. Here are their most appalling stories:
Note: Some submissions come from this Reddit thread.
1."My sibling hasn't spoken to me since I missed their wedding. It was a week-long party at a resort overseas, and most family members couldn't make it. It would have cost me thousands out of pocket. Straight up, I don't have the money. I can't afford to put it on credit either because our budget is extremely tight. I've been married to my husband for eight years, and we did two nights in Orlando for our honeymoon; that's been our ONLY vacation in nearly a decade. We have a young son and full-time jobs. Do whatever you want with your wedding—I don't care. It sucks, but it's your day. But don’t cut me out of your life because of my finances and my inability to jet off to a foreign resort island for a week. I didn’t inherit a large amount of money, but my sibling did."
2."My entitled cousin got married to an equally entitled partner. The lavish wedding was close family only. I was strongly encouraged to send a gift by my overbearing aunt. There were lots of impractical items left on their registry, so I bought out the remaining items to complete it 100%. Most were ridiculously expensive containers to turn their pantry into a fancy display. I wasn’t surprised when I didn’t receive a thank you note, but I was surprised the following Thanksgiving when I was asked what gift I’d sent. When they found out, they acted dismissive and insulting because I hadn’t gotten them one big-ticket item or sent cash. I’m sorry I bought the vacuum-sealed wine cork you asked for???"
3."They were very nice people with a generational-wealth family. He had 19 groomsmen; she had 16 bridesmaids. He arrived in his own limo with eight more trailing for his groomsmen, and she flew in on a helicopter. My husband and I aren't rich but not poor; he’s in the trades and works hard for our lifestyle. He drives a big truck—not beat-up, just two years old at the time and a top-end, high-end model. A week before the wedding, the couple emailed us asking if we could rent a vehicle 'more in the aesthetic of the event.' If not, they requested we park in the staff parking lot. We didn’t go."
4."The only demand I ever received was from a bride and groom who had no savings for a wedding (they blew it all on travel and going out) and wanted us to help pay for their destination wedding. Not only did they want us to pay for our plane tickets, but they also wanted us to chip in for food and alcohol costs. I’ve gone to weddings where the bride and groom had money or were middle class and didn’t make any demands."
5."I was a bridesmaid in a wedding for one of my best friends. She was marrying a guy who was a sweetheart but came from 'old money.' Everything was extravagant and beautiful, as requested by his family. His great-aunt made it clear she wanted a personal server at the reception, which was reserved ONLY for her. She also requested a special meal (lobster with steak and steamed asparagus, no butter or salt) and wanted to see the seating chart so she wouldn’t have to speak to anyone she didn’t like. She asked the couple to hire a band instead of a DJ because they 'played too loud' and were not as classy as a 10-piece band. Her final request was that no one wear the color or designer she had chosen for the reception. The other bridesmaids and I were shocked when the bride agreed to everything, but it was because she was paying for their month-long honeymoon in Europe."
—Anonymous
6."Purse dogs. To complete the look, they wanted all the women at the wedding to have a small dog in a purse. Most of us had small dogs, but those who didn’t were told to find one to borrow or even get a dog for this wedding. Because who wouldn’t want to commit to caring for a dog for years just to achieve the bride’s vision? The dogs also had to be purebreds or at least look like it—no obvious mutts allowed. Originally, the couple said that any woman without a dog in a purse would be turned away at the door, but in the end, the bride relented and made the purse dogs simply 'strongly encouraged.'"
"I almost RSVPed 'no' but couldn’t resist the drama. About half the women didn’t have dogs, but the 30-ish dogs present made for a chaotic evening. No one could hear the speeches over all the restless canines, and the vows were interrupted by two Yorkies having an argument. No one could enjoy the food with all the begging, and the caterers couldn’t have been pleased to see dogs licking plates. The highlight of the evening was when the maid of honor’s cockapoo pooped on the dance floor, and the groom stepped in it. Absolutely priceless!
—Anonymous
7."They were both very wealthy, but they didn’t ask for a physical gift. Instead, they asked me to clean their enormous house from top to bottom, set up the wedding yurt in a field with a couple of other people, serve drinks all night, and give a prewritten speech about how pretty the bride was. The worst part is that because I was young and my girlfriend was in the wedding party, I said yes—except for the speech. That’s nuts."
—Anonymous
8."My cousin married into a very posh family. The wedding and reception were held inside an art museum—our family table was next to a painting with a guard standing by to make sure we didn’t get too close. It was beautiful. Everything was covered in flowers, and since they couldn’t have candles, they used fairy lamps that gave the building a dreamy feel. It was over the top: the cake was nine layers, with each layer different because the bride didn’t want anyone to have to choose. We are a close family, and many of us had come from out of state, so we took lots of pictures—dancing, posing with champagne, holding sleeping kids. We posted them on social media without a second thought. The next day, my aunt (the groom’s mother) called, crying, saying the bride was furious and we all needed to take our pictures down."
"The bride had sold exclusive photo rights to a social magazine, and we were violating the contract by posting them before the magazine published. We did it to avoid upsetting my aunt, but we all thought it was weird. We still joke about notifying everyone about possible contracts before taking pictures at family events."
—Anonymous
9."The bride had a complete emotional breakdown because the purple monogrammed napkins she ordered looked slightly too blue. She also spent the last half of her bachelorette party crying and complaining that not enough people were there."
10."My cousin married a vapid idiot. The night before the wedding at the rehearsal, she realized the flower girl had the same shoes as her, in a much smaller size. She freaked out at 9 p.m. and made the flower girl’s mother buy different shoes before the ceremony. That’s what happens when you buy your shoes from Payless. Not much of a selection in white."
11."My best friend got married two years ago to a bride who insisted that her maid of honor not get any tattoos leading up to the wedding or she would be removed from the wedding party. The reason being 'because she will ruin the wedding photos with her tattoos.' The maid of honor wanted to get a quarter sleeve from her shoulder to mid-bicep. She had been planning this tattoo for months when this ultimatum was levied over a year before the actual wedding date (a very long engagement period of around 2+ years). I could understand her stance if she didn't have several tattoos already (none visible while in her dress though). Which made her look like a huge hypocrite to everyone else. This was just one of many awkward moments at that wedding."
12."The bride’s sister became pregnant six months before the wedding, and the bride had a massive meltdown, claiming her sister did it on purpose to steal her thunder. She threatened to kick her out of the wedding, nearly tearing the family apart. Christ."
13."I work at a bakery, and part of my job is to help couples find the right designer for their cake. One bride wanted a cake big enough to feed 500 people and wanted it to float. This multi-tiered cake was going to be filled with fresh berries and custard, covered with buttercream and fondant, and decorated with edible flowers and fresh fruit. And she expected us to somehow defy the laws of gravity and make it float. Apparently, she saw a floating cake in an anime and decided nothing else was acceptable. When I told her we couldn’t make floating cakes, she threw her coffee on the floor and cried that we were ruining her wedding. Her fiancé ushered her out, and I never saw either of them again."
14.And lastly, "I was just in a wedding a few months ago. We bridesmaids had to wear black shoes under our floor-length dresses. Right before we left the hotel to head to the church, one of the bridesmaid’s shoes broke—the sole separated from her toe and dangled. We tried finding a sewing kit to fix it but had to go. We grabbed another pair of tan heels she had and went to the limo. We stuffed pins and things into the black shoe to try to keep it together, but one wrong move and a pin would poke right through her toe. We showed the bride, and she insisted the bridesmaid wear the black ones. Are you kidding me??? The walk down that aisle was like 50 yards."
"The bridesmaid switched shoes without telling the bride. I walked in front of her and made sure to walk super slow, so she could take tiny steps, hoping her shoes wouldn’t show. And yes, we weren’t in any pictures after the ceremony ended."
