Stephen ‘tWtich’ Boss’ widow Allison Holker responds to claims she’s ‘disgracing’ him for a paycheck

Stephen “tWtich” Boss’s widow, Allison Holker, has responded to claims that she’s “disgracing” her husband for a paycheck.

The 36-year-old dancer addressed the backlash in the comments of an Instagram post on Tuesday (January 7) after People magazine published its interview with her about her late husband.

Boss, known for being the DJ on The Ellen DeGeneres Show, died by suicide at age 40 in December 2022.

During her conversation with People, Holker opened up about the aftermath of her husband’s death, including discovering his drug addiction only days after his funeral.

In one video of the interview shared on the publication’s Instagram, Holker discussed the importance of being vulnerable with those around her. She also urged people to ask for help during difficult times.

However, multiple people in the comments criticized Holker for airing details about Boss’s personal life.

“This whole thing made me sad. He’s gone. Why tear apart this name?” one person wrote. “I was fully supportive about you moving in and being happy but this@paycheck was not worth disgracing his name.”

Holker responded to the comment, saying: “I’ll always love you. Just trying to help people feel safe to ask for help and support.”

In the interview, Holker claimed she discovered a large amount of drugs in their home hidden in shoe boxes after Boss’s death.

“I was with one of my really dear friends, and we were cleaning out the closet and picking out an outfit for him for the funeral,” she said. “It was a really triggering moment for me because there were a lot of things I discovered in our closet that I did not know existed.”

She continued: “It was very alarming to me to learn that there was so much happening that I had no clue [about]. It was a really scary moment in my life to figure that out, but it also helped me process that he was going through so much and he was hiding so much, and there must have been a lot of shame in that.”

Holker explained that throughout her and Boss’s nine years together, she thought they were “very honest” about things, including his marijuana use.

She also said that her husband would go to the guesthouse to smoke or drink, after their three children — Weslie, 16, Maddox, eight, and Zaia, five — went to sleep. “That was his alone time. It was his time to recharge, and that was okay,” she added.

Following Boss’ funeral, Holker went through his journals and discovered he was sexually abused by a male figure when he was a child.

“He was wrestling with a lot inside himself, and he was trying to self-medicate and cope with all those feelings because he didn’t want to put it on anyone because he loved everyone so much,” she explained. “He didn’t want other people to take on his pain.”

Last month, Holker — who’s releasing her memoir, This Far: My Story of Love, Loss, and Embracing the Light, on February 4 — took to Instagram to pay tribute to Boss on the second anniversary of his death.

“Our Angel @sir_twitch_alot is watching over us and protecting us. You are always on our hearts and we will always love you,” she wrote in the caption of the post, which included a picture of the couple and their three children. “We miss you Stephen. Two years with you not here but you are always on our minds. We love you.”

In September 2024, Holker confirmed that she had fallen in love again, going public with her relationship with Adam Edmunds.

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