Should you date someone going through a divorce?

·Relationship expert
·1-min read

Anna Swoboda is a Certified Dating and Relationship Coach as well as a Matchmaker whose mission is to help people who have been out of dating for a while to feel confident and skilled to jump back in and find a fabulous new partner.

Question: Should I date someone who's still going through a divorce?

Divorces are mostly not easy. They are time-consuming and emotional. The court process can be stressful.

If there are kids involved, there is a whole family system that has been upended and is re-adjusting. The ex can be easy or difficult. You should go into this with your eyes wide open.

Relationship expert Anna Swoboda shares whether or not you should date someone going through a divorce. Photo: Supplied
Relationship expert Anna Swoboda shares whether or not you should date someone going through a divorce. Photo: Supplied

Firstly ask yourself: Are they ready for a new committed relationship? Do they have the time and energy for you and your relationship while divorcing their ex?

If you believe they do, then ask yourself: Are you ready for all the emotion and challenges the divorce process will bring?

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If you are with someone who is getting a divorce, my strong advice is to stay out of it as much as possible, let your partner drive it and make the decisions. Very often, I have seen new partners developing strong views on the financial settlement (what’s fair etc.) or custody arrangements that cause the divorcee to get stuck between two warring partners, old and new.

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