A man has been dragged over the coals online after he admitted to ‘getting mad’ at his girlfriend of over two years for asking if the pair could leave a social event early because her period had stained her dress.
The man shared his story with the notoriously brutally honest ‘AITA’ (that’s ‘Am I The Asshole’) community on Reddit, complaining that not only did the ‘nasty stain’ ruin the expensive white dress he purchased for her but that she also forced him to ‘lie’ to his friends.
“We were at a very fancy event with a few of my friends (social distancing rules, everyone wore masks etc.)... However, at one point, [my girlfriend] excused herself to go the bathroom, and then I didn't see her again until she sent me a text from the car asking if we could go home,” he wrote.
When he reached the car and asked her why she wanted to leave so early on, she explained that her period had come ‘unexpectedly’ — however, the man didn’t appear satisfied with this response.
“I asked why she didn't bring extra tampons or pads (or use those [period] tracking apps) she tried to defend herself by saying that she did everything she could and that she had a period stain and didn't want to stay...” he wrote.
In the end, he agreed to excuse them both from the event so that she could ‘shower and unwind’ at home.
“She asked me to lie to my friends, and tell them that she was feeling ‘unwell’ so that she could go home,” he said.
Before they left, a ‘mutual friend’ gave his girlfriend a jacket to cover what he described as the ‘nasty stain’; “It was very big and essentially ruined an expensive dress which I bought.”
“She also made me purposefully lie because she wasn't prepared enough, and made me miss an event with my friends. Needless to say, I was extremely pissed,” he added.
Once they got home, the man said his girlfriend told him that he was being ‘inconsiderate’ before saying she had a headache — which he put in quotation marks — and wanted to lie down.
He finished his tale by claiming that he doesn’t see himself as the a**hole despite both his friend who loaned the jacket and his girlfriend thinking otherwise.
“She woke up and I haven't spoken to her properly until she apologises, and gives back the friend’s jacket. I don't think I'm an AH, but when I told my friend (the same friend who gave her a jacket) he told me that I was the AH, and my girlfriend kind of agreed,” he concluded.
Outraged Reddit users wasted no time in declaring the man not only an a**hole but a huge one at that.
“YTA. You are a huge asshole,” one wrote in the comments before outlining the reasons why in three searing bullet points:
Unexpected periods happen. Even if you use a tracker, they can vary by days or weeks and you can have spotting in between. Sometimes you just forget. I promise, every person who menstruates has at some point been caught off guard.
For most women, in terms of embarrassment, having a period stain is like shitting yourself in public. You yourself called it ‘nasty’ - there's tons of social stigma around it. If you shit yourself in public, wouldn't you want her to find an innocent excuse and sneak you home? Or would you want her to tell all your friends at a big fancy event that there's turds leaking down your legs?
I promise you, she was probably just as devastated and embarrassed about ruining the dress. Instead of feeling sympathetic, you got mad at her.
“If you cannot accept the realities of most women's bodies, stop dating women,” the user finished their response.
Other Redditors jumped in with their own fiery opinions on the man’s behaviour, with one calling him ‘selfish,’ ‘thoughtless and inconsiderate’.
“I really hate when I read posts like this, and it’s about a man preaching about periods or some other thing women deal with that he literally probably knows next to nothing about.
“OP sounds incredibly selfish. It is horribly embarrassing to have to walk around to a gigantic period stain on your clothes. To expect her to walk around like that so he can have a good time with his friends is so thoughtless and inconsiderate.”
Another simply wrote: “Agree. YTA. This man doesn’t deserve a girlfriend. Or any woman.”
“Telling your friends she felt unwell wasn’t a lie. You didn’t do her a favour. You did the bare minimum and complained over it/guilted her. You have some serious learning to do about women’s bodies and common human decency,” one user added.