Domenica Calarco is well known as a reality TV star from the 2022 season of Married At First Sight Australia. Dom's been through it all and as Yahoo Lifestyle's sex columnist she is sharing her big sister advice about all the taboo topics you wish you could ask about – and nothing is off limits.
Question: How do you get in the mood to masturbate without making it feel like a job? How do I make the act as fun as sex?
If masturbation has started to feel like a job, it’s time to start doing it less!
Self-love and taking the time out of your day to give yourself pleasure should never feel like a job. This is when you know you’ve got to take 10 steps back and go back to basics.
Do it less so you can make sure you make it worthwhile. Also, I don’t claim to be an expert, I just really like sex. So this is what has worked for me.
How to make masturbation sexy? Well, good question.
Masturbation is predominantly done on your own, meaning you don’t have that special someone whispering sweet nothings in your ear or touching you in places that get you all hot and bothered.
Dim the lights and put on some of your favourite tunes to get you in the mood.
I also recommend having a hot shower beforehand, or better yet a bath! Get yourself in the mood by doing the things that not only make you relaxed but help you to get in touch with your inner god/goddess.
Turning masturbation into a whole sensory experience will not only make it feel less like a chore but a greater, more pleasurable experience. Make it a ritual, rather than a chore. Get excited to have some alone time.
Romance novels and erotica are a great way of getting into the mood especially if you aren’t a porn person. Fifty Shades of Grey is a great starting point if you haven’t already, but a current favourite of mine is Colleen Hoover… Very steamy!
Of course, we cannot forget the added inclusions of pornography and sex toys. Both of these can aid in making masturbation a more sensory experience as well.
Getting turned on by watching porn as well as using a sex toy are all other ways of helping yourself get into the mood just that little bit more.
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