I've Been In A Relationship For 8 Years And Still Don't Know If I Want To Get Married — So I Made A Pros And Cons List
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Hi, I'm Morgan! I'm a 30-year-old woman, and I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for eight years.
Aside from people asking when we'll have kids (never as we're childfree), the number one question we always hear is when we'll get married. But we've already lived together for seven years, raised a puppy-son we adore, and built a life together. Do we even need to get married? I'm still undecided.
So, I made a list of the pros and cons of marriage to help me with my decision:
Disclaimer: If you're happily married, that's awesome! If you're happily unmarried, that's also great! These are just my personal thoughts for my own relationship.
1.Pro: I'd love to have a wedding.
2.Con: Weddings are EXPENSIVE.
3.Pro: I could add my boyfriend to my healthcare plan.
4.Con: The historical context of marriage leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
5.Pro: It can be a good financial decision.
6.Con: Marriage means giving financial control away.
7.Pro: We'd be able to make medical decisions for each other.
8.Con: Divorce seems really, really hard.
9.Pro: I would have beautiful wedding pictures.
10.Con: If we got married, I don't know if we'd maintain this feeling of choosing each other every day.
11.Pro: My boyfriend's family would officially become my family.
12.And finally, con: It's what everyone expects us to do.
Any other pros or cons to marriage? Whether you're married or unmarried, how did you come to your decision? LMK your thoughts in the comments below!
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