Husband's jaw-dropping gift backfires epically: 'Huge red flag'

Penny Burfitt
·Lifestyle & Entertainment Producer
·4-min read

A husband's attempt at a romantic gesture went spectacularly wrong after he decided to purchase a house without consulting his wife.

The jaw-dropping act which he says was an expression of his love and devotion left his wife beyond disappointed and has divided opinion since being shared to a Reddit forum online.

The wife took to the forum to get advice on whether she was being 'ungrateful' for not being happy with the house – which was given as a Valentine's Day gift.

She says he surprised her with a set of keys and a picture of what he referred to as 'their' dream house for the big day, but that she was left baffled as they had never discussed or even looked at future homes together.

"I’ve never seen this house; we’ve never looked at houses together or talked about what we would like in a future house and we had previously agreed to continue living where we live for at least another 3 years, so I’m not sure how he figured out what “our” dream house would look like," she wrote.

"I don’t know if I’m being ungrateful by being disappointed since I haven’t seen it in person yet, but it does look nice from the pictures/ videos he’s shown me."

Surprised young couple look at laptop
The woman was unsure how to react when she saw photos of the house that she hated. Photo: Getty Images

"I was really looking forward to searching for our first house together since I’ve never bought a property before."

She goes on to ask others' opinion, kicking off a heated discussion on the platform.

"Sounds like he bought himself a house," one person wrote.

Another didn't mince their words, labelling the entire thing one, big, fat, red flag.

"I would be beyond pissed," the commenter wrote. "It’s not “our” dream house if only one person was involved in the purchase from start to finish."

"He did not take into consideration what you might want in a house at all. If ur husband feels like he can do something as major as buying a house without your knowledge, what else can he do without you ever knowing about it? This is [a] major red flag for me."

"This is BEYOND inappropriate and possibly even divorce-worthy," another wrote, arguing that making an enormous life decision without consulting your partner betrays a serious lack of trust or communication.

Some disagreed, arguing that the pair were going to buy a house eventually and that the woman was being ungrateful.

"To be honest you sound ungrateful that he did something nice for you which is getting a house for both of you," one person wrote. "... I think you should feel happy that he bought a house for the both of you and that you have a roof [over] your head."

Another wrote that the decision was the wrong one, but it seemed to come from a place of love.

"I'm sure he didn't do it to upset you however that's a huge decision & also one you should be part of as well," the onlooker wrote.

"In my opinion, he seems to truly love you & I'm sure his intentions were not in any way from a bad place. I think it's a really sweet gesture however it's a big decision that the [two] of you should have made together but he must have been too excited to do something for you to show you how much he loves you."

"You should have a conversation with him."

The dicey situation is not the first time a partner has come under fire online.

Last week, a wife's savage' Valentine's Day gift had many feeling decidedly awkward after she shared it on TikTok.

The woman went viral after uploading the video showing her unique homemade gift, a parcel filled with pictures of all the women’s photos he’s liked on Instagram.

"What did you get your man for Valentine's Day?" she captioned the video.

“I got my husband this cute little box and filled it with pictures of all the girls that he’s been liking on Instagram. Hope he likes it!”

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