Yahoo Lifestyle Married People Are Revealing The Darkest Secret They've Never Told Their Spouse, And I Have No Words
We asked divorced and married people in the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the wildest secrets they've ever kept from their spouses. Here are the shocking results.
1."My ex-husband decided not to tell me that he was running from the cops. He made a whole fake identity, and that's who I married. Two years into our marriage, the police came knocking on our door while he was at work (which was a 'special job' that he said he wasn’t able to tell me about). The cops revealed everything to me, and now he’s in jail."
—Anonymous
2."I had a vasectomy many years ago, but I never told anyone. It got me through two divorces because my then-wives had gotten pregnant, and I knew it couldn't have been with me."
—Anonymous
3."Male here. My wife and I have been happily married for 10 years and counting. Before we met, I had an ongoing friends-with-benefits situation with another man. Nothing romantic, but every so often we would meet up and have sex. I stopped hooking up with him when I met my now-wife and realized I wanted a future with her. Basically, I didn’t want to ruin a good thing. Down the line, when I told him I was getting married, he was happy for me and wished me well. We had a lot of fun! I love my wife and would not do anything like that again while we're married, so I don't feel the need to tell her and cause a lot of potential questions."
—Anonymous
4."I'll never reveal to my spouse how I damaged my testicles. I told her that it happened while playing racquetball, but the truth is that I actually let a woman at the gym squeeze them on a dare to see how much pain I could take."
—Anonymous
5."The secret I'm keeping is that my oldest child's father may not be her biological father. My ex-husband and I were both in the Navy in the '80s, and he left on a mission. While he was gone, I had an affair and got pregnant. To this day, I have no clue which man is the biological father, and I intend to take this to my grave. Not that this is relevant, but my ex-husband had affairs before and during our marriage, which resulted in two of his children being born in the same year, so thankfully I'm not married to him anymore."
—Anonymous
6."I've been 'talking' to a former student throughout the last couple of months. I'm not even sure how it really started, but we exchange nudes and sext occasionally. There's a 12-year age difference between us, and we are both adults, so nothing illegal ever happened (and when he was my student we never crossed that line!). He is really attractive, though, and gives me more compliments than my husband does, so maybe that's why I can't stop talking to him."
—Anonymous
7."I'll never tell, but I had an affair with my adopted cousin. We're both very good-looking."
—Anonymous
8."I'm incredibly disappointed with the way my husband proposed. No candles, no flowers, no romantic gesture. Not even a speech about why he loves me. He literally just got down on one knee while holding a ring and said, 'Will you marry me?' It's been four years, and I'm still sad every day that I didn't get the romantic proposal I had always dreamed of."
—Anonymous
9."I'll never tell my partner, but I voted for a third-party in the 2024 election."
—Anonymous
10."I can never tell my husband that I want to have a threesome with another woman. He knows I’m bi, but we don't have an open marriage. He doesn’t know that I fantasize about having a woman in our bed with us (no one specifically, just a general desire). I know it would hurt him if I told him that I want to be with someone beyond him, so I will never tell him."
—Anonymous
11."My secret is that I'm married to a woman but was on Grindr for a while. I just couldn't go through with actually meeting up with another man, so I instead watch a ton of gay/bi stuff on Reddit so she can't find my browser history. I've also bought and thrown away so many sex toys in fear of getting caught."
—Anonymous
12."While engaged to my now-husband, I slept with my ex-boyfriend...for old time's sake."
—Anonymous
13."This one is tame, but oftentimes when my husband leaves snacks on the counter, I'll eat them and then tell him the dog got them instead."
14."I told my wife I don’t do butt stuff, but I’ve secretly been a butt-stuff beast for my whole life."
15."The biggest secret I never shared with my spouse was that I drove to Jacksonville to meet his ex, who he married twice. She is a registered nurse, and he is a controlling narcissist. She and I stayed up all night reminiscing about just how much she disliked sleeping with him. I had to laugh because it was the truth. He liked it one way: boring!"
—Anonymous
16."My husband and I got a dog, but what he didn't know was that I had a camera installed in the home so I could keep tabs on the dog while I was away. This is how I found out my husband had been cheating on me, which I never told him. My world was never going to be the same again, and I never told him why."
—Anonymous
17."A few years ago I found and killed a massive spider in our basement. My wife hates spiders, and I don’t want her to live in fear knowing that a hand-sized spider could be in her home, so I'll never tell her."
—Anonymous
18."My ex-husband believed that he was GREAT in bed. I purred and had him believing he was the best. He'll never know the truth."
—Anonymous
19.And finally: "I never told my spouse at the time (he's my ex now), but I knew he was perusing porn sites, subscribing to dating sites, and was cheating on me. He also gave me STIs twice because he cheated. I was so glad to put his sorry butt in my rearview mirror. It's been several years now, and I've been dating his buddy who worked with him – now THAT is something I never told him. Good riddance!"
—Anonymous
If you have your own secret that you'd like to get off your chest, please feel free to share it in the comments below!
Note: Submissions have been edited for length and clarity.
