Bridesmaid quits after 'nasty' comment one day before wedding

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A woman has revealed the moment she quit being a bridesmaid for her soon-to-be sister in law, after the bride admitted she would have preferred her fiancé's ex female friend as a 'sister' rather than her.

Taking to Reddit to explain the situation, the woman said she and her fiancé had been together for five years and engaged for two, and she was due to be in the bridal party for her fiancé's sister's wedding with whom she thought she was "pretty close".

Wedding flowers in hand the bride and her bridesmaids. A feast for brides
A woman quit being a bridesmaid one day before the wedding. Photo: Getty

"Before I got with my fiancé, his family was trying to get him to date another female friend of his who he no longer talks to because she's said some pretty horrible things about him and some of his friends," the woman explains.

"Plus she was always trying to put me in my place since I started dating my fiancé, claiming she'll always come first in his life. Long story short, stuff happened and they no longer talk."


Things were going relatively well ahead of her sister-in-laws wedding, until the day before when the sister started talking about her brother's former friend.

"She started saying what a gorgeous girl she is and how pretty she is," the post continued.

"My fiancé and I felt uncomfortable and my fiancé was pretty p***ed because that ex friend has caused a lot of damage in my fiancé's life in the past so it was hurtful for him to hear his sister praising her like that but he stayed silent since he didn't want to cause drama during the wedding period."

But the "nail in the coffin" came when the sister declared she would have loved to have said former friend as a bridesmaid.

shocking comment from bride on Reddit
She revealed the shocking comment from the bride. Photo: Reddit

"She said it was a shame my fiancé never got to date (female ex friend) since I came along and took her place because she'd love to have her as a bridesmaid but because of me she can't and she can't even call her a sister because of me," she went on.

"I kindly got up and excused myself, saying I'll head home. While I was gathering my stuff to leave I also said I'd withdraw as a bridesmaid since I'm not really the one she wanted there and that she should contact (ex friend) while she still has time and I'll give her my dress since we are the same size."

Surprisingly the woman's own family apparently believed she was in the wrong for not "sucking it up for one more day" and leaving the "bride stressed", so she took to Reddit for advice.

In the end she received plenty of support from other users.

"Anyone who feels completed to be malicious and nasty the day before their wedding has some serious emotional issues," one person commented.

"Keep backing yourself and look after yourself and have a wonderful life with your partner," another said.

While a third agreed: "Your family doesn't seem to be understanding the context though so I'd dismiss their opinion if I were you."

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