Here’s the Deal With Becca Tilley and Hayley Kiyoko's Super Adorbable 'Ship

Real ones know that something cataclysmic happened with the release of Hayley Kiyoko's Bachelorette-themed music video, "For the Girls."

In the project, which dropped on May 20, 2022, Hayley stars as the reality series' first lesbian Bachelorette as she welcomes a group of hopeful gals to a stunning mansion. And just like on the actual show, we're treated to a bevy of stunt introductions, dramatic antics, and a semi-obvi clear favorite in the form of Becca Tilley, who we now know is the singer's partner IRL!!! If you're also obsessing over/invested in the duo's 'ship (not to mention their epic relationship announcement), here's everything you need to know!

April 2018

According to Hayley’s Instagram, she and Becca met for the first time at the singer's "Expectations" release party in April 2018. Cute AF proof below!

May 2018

The two are captured together at Nylon's Annual Young Hollywood Party as Hayley's career is skyrocketing. She would go on to be featured on the cover of Nylon's first-ever Pride Issue the following month.

nylon's annual young hollywood party at avenue los angeles
Rich Fury - Getty Images

December 2018

Hayley wins the Rising Star Award at Billboard’s Women in Music Awards, and Becca RTs her speech, saying she is "so proud" of the singer 🥺.

February 2019

Becca is spotted singing along to Hayley's hit song "Curious" while the singer is on her Encore tour. Okay, obsessed with how supportive the Bach alum is!

September 2019

Becca confirms to US Weekly that she's happy and in love...but it seems like we'll never know with whom 👀. "I like that [my relationship is] private and that it’s my own," Becca said. "I had a public relationship before and it just felt like I had a lot of people involved, which I know that’s why they sort of watched me in the first place. I’m really happy and I hope to eventually start opening up about it more, but I’m happy with it being private right now." Privacy respected, hopes crushed!

December 2019

The former reality star tells Lauren Zima on an episode of Roses & Rosé that she isn't sure when she'll share her relationship with the world, noting, "The people who I want to know, know about it...I think there's something really special that it's just ours." She also touches on her own show, Scrubbing In, and admits, "It's hard having a podcast where my co-host Tanya [Rad] is so open about her life and her dating life, and then people being curious about mine since they do follow me from my journey to find love. It's hard in that sense to be like, 'Oh, am I letting people down?'"

However, Becca does shed some light at the end of the tunnel when she reveals, "If there's a moment where I feel like, 'OK, I'm ready to let everybody into my relationship and everyone can have an opinion on it, [then I will share].'"

February 2020

During a live taping of her podcast, Scrubbing In With Becca Tilley and Tanya Rad, Becca says that she's "95 percent" sure she’d marry her current partner. This super-cute revelation grants her mystery bae (which we now know is Hayley!) the code name "95p."

July 2021

The duo appears together in a number of video montages on social media, including this TikTok from July 3:

August 2021

...and this choreographed routine to the tune of Doja Cat's "Get Into It (Yuh)" from August 13:

You know what they say: the couple that TikToks together, stays together ❤️.

February 2022

Deuxmoi posts a blind item on its Instagram stories that *some* consider to be about Hayley and Becca:

blind item
Deuxmoi - Instagram

The rumor mill is rumor mill-ing at this point!

May 2022

On May 18, Becca and Hayley attend the Elle Hollywood Rising event in Los Angeles looking v cute together:

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Charley Gallay - Getty Images

Then, on May 20 *the* music video for Hayley's song "For the Girls" drops, and everyone collectively loses their shit because in it the singer basically lives out episode 1 of a fictional Bachelorette season.

The California native meets contestants one by one, has some pretty steamy makeouts, and sparks tons of drama between the girls. Then at the end, it's Becca who emerges in a stunning gold, off-the-shoulder dress and smiles at Hayley before the song ends 🥺. TBH, it's pretty safe to assume it's the Bachelor alum who gets the final rose in hindsight because *dramatic pause* after the music video drops, Becca takes to Twitter to write, "3rd time’s a charm 🌹. So so happy 🥰."

That same day, she also shares footage of her and Hayley's last four years together on Instagram.

Plus, we find out the night before "For the Girls" premiered, the singer pulled the former reality star onstage, handed her a "final rose," and gave her a hug and kiss at a bash celebrating the single.

Since then, the adorbs romance has been nothing short of a whirlwind for these two, with Becca admitting on a May 23 episode of Scrubbing In, "When I made the decision to go public with it, I thought, 'I have this army of people who have my back no matter what. And the people that I care about most in the world are our supporters and they love us,' And so I was prepared for anything and everything."

She teared up and continued, "I was not prepared for the amount of love and support that we got. Like, I just could have never predicted…" BRB, grabbing Kleenex stat 🥺.

June 7, 2022

Hayley speaks with People about feeling "overwhelmed in the best way" in her relationship with Becca.

"It feels really good," she gushes. "I mean, we lived a very normal life. It just wasn't on social media. We lived very open. And we've been together for four years, but now it's on social media. And now we get to share with the world. It's just been really nice—we've had so much love and support."

She continues, "It's overwhelming in the best way—I think people love love. And I think anytime you see a love story that's been able to last...and I think a lot of people are shocked that we were able to keep it private for four years. But I think people's really cool that people root for my happiness and our happiness and our relationships. So it's really humbling and overwhelming in the best way."

September 19, 2022

While appearing on her girlfriend's Scrubbing In podcast, Hayley gets emotional while discussing the time during which she and Becca kept their relationship private.

"When we started dating, I was ready to have a public relationship," the singer begins. "When we were navigating her experience and where she was at in her journey, that obviously shifted. But it was worth it to me because I wanted to be in a relationship with her, and I never felt like she was hiding me."

The singer then starts crying opening up about how Becca has "been through a lot" that she hasn't shared with fans. "She deserves lots of love, and everyone in my community, in our community, deserves to be loved and accepted for who they are," she adds.

"I never want you to feel hidden or like you're a secret, but this is my first time navigating it, and I don't want to have to do it in the public yet," Becca says in response.

"I'm just really proud of us navigating those hard conversations...I had my own stuff going on, but I was so certain of her. It was never like I had doubts about her or was ashamed of her," she adds.

September 23, 2022

The couple makes their first official red carpet debut at the iHeartRadio Music Festival in Las Vegas and the content is 🥺❤️:

October 29, 2022

Brb, saving this for Halloween inspo this year!

December 11, 2022

These two truly LOVE getting into the holiday spirit.

December 13, 2022

Becca and Hayley are invited to the freakin' WHITE HOUSE to watch President Joe Biden sign the Respect for Marriage Act.

"I wish I could tell my younger self—a closeted biracial girl searching for acceptance—that one day I could live authentically and choose to legally marry whomever I love regardless of their race or sexual orientation," Hayley captions a carousel of pics she posts on Instagram. "The Respect for Marriage Act secures the safety of so many unions around the country, and it was an honor to be there today to witness history."

And obvi Becca sweetly shows her support in the comments by writing, "I love you, I was so proud to be there with you today! ❤️" Obsessed!

March 3, 2023

Hayley gets candid on her Instagram and confesses that her single "Hungry Heart" was written shortly after meeting her now-girlfriend in 2018.

"Remembering when I hung out with this girl one time, and the next day started missing her like crazy and felt like my heart couldn't go on without her, so I wrote a song about it," the musician captions her iconic explainer vid. She also takes to the comments section to add, "plot twist she is now my gf and the song HUNGRY HEART comes out tonight 😈."

April 3, 2023

Becca calls Hayley her "favorite person" and "the best part" of her day in a touching Instaa tribute:

"I'm so happy you were born because that was the very first step that we needed in order for us to meet 😂. I hope this year is full of everything you dream of because I don't know anyone who is more deserving," the Bachelor alum also gushes in her post. Love, love, love these two. 😭❤️

October 11, 2023

The celebs walk the red carpet at the Los Angeles premiere of Taylor Swift: The Eras Tour in coordinating all-black 'fits.

becca tilley and hayley kiyoko
Matt Winkelmeyer - Getty Images

"The outfits are Reputation, the feeling is Lover," Becca even cheekily captions pics from the outing.

October 22, 2023

Becca and Hayley go to Disneyland and the snaps make us extremely jealous.

October 25, 2023

The couple crushes Halloween in *chef's kiss* Wicked costumes of Wicked Witch of the West and Glinda the Good Witch.

October 30, 2023

Hayley posts a touching tribute to Becca for her bday and we have yet to emotionally recover:

December 10, 2023

Cute holiday pics, incoming!

February 14, 2024

Becca and Hayley post the sweetest Instagram messages to each other in honor of Valentine's Day:

March 20, 2024

The celebs spend time with Becca's mom and dad, and the pics are too cute for words. 😭

That's all we have for now! But, trust us—we’ll be updating this diligently as more amazing moments happen for Becca and Hayley!!!

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