Millions Of People Have Viewed This Relationship Coach's Dating Advice And Honestly, His Answers To These 8 Viral Questions Had Me Clutching My Pearls
Ashley Holt
·5-min read
If you're on the internet, you know dating in 2024 can be a cold, cold world. So I had to find the right person to give us some advice, and thaw out our hope a bit.
Anwar White, known as @datingcoachanwar on TikTok, is a dating and relationship coach in his 40s, living in Montreal, Canada. He calls himself social media's "fairy godbrother." His TikToks regularly get millions of views.
So I asked Anwar eight dating questions that are always going viral to get his advice:
1.What are the top five biggest red flags in dating?
2.You've said on TikTok that a lot of people submit to common dating myths, but that should change. What are those myths, and why shouldn't people submit to them?
3.What should people do when it appears that the person they're dating has unclear intentions?
4.What should people do when the person they're dating hasn’t brought up their future together?
"I don’t care if someone hasn’t brought up the future because you should have clarity about your own boundaries and timeline," he said. "I tell my clients that within three months they should be in an exclusive, committed relationship if that’s what they want."
"Instead of waiting for the other person to decide, express your timeline clearly. If they aren’t on the same page, it’s probably time to let them go."
5.What warning signs should people look for to ensure someone isn’t only interested in looks?
6.What should people do when there is conflict in the beginning stages of dating a person?
"It’s normal to have differences when you’re getting to know someone. However, frequent conflicts like arguing every week are not healthy, especially early on," he said. "The beginning of a relationship should be the honeymoon phase. If there’s constant conflict, you’re likely not compatible."
7.What traits should a person look out for in someone that shows they’re incapable of supporting them through tough times?
8.And finally, what should people do when the person they’re dating expects them to be the sole provider in the relationship?
"It’s not the 1950s anymore, and financial dynamics have changed," he said. "Women are often financially independent, and in some cases earning more than their partners. It’s about how both partners can contribute, not necessarily one person carrying the entire financial burden."
"That said, in some cultures, like Middle Eastern cultures, it’s common for men to be the sole providers. So if that aligns with your values, go for it. But in today’s economy, it’s practical for both people to bring something to the table financially."
To hear more from Anwar, you can follow him on TikTok or Instagram.
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