Two women have opened up about how they are constantly mistaken for sisters in public, even though they are actually dating – and part of a polyamorous thruple.
Charlotte Gary, 25, first met her girlfriend, Amberly Worrell, 29, in school in 2005. She then met her fiancé Gabriel Baxter, 29, in 2011, while she was in another lesbian relationship.
It wasn’t until 2016, after Charlotte has been with Gabriel for three years, that Amberly joined their relationship.
Since embarking on their polyamorous relationship Charlotte and Amberly are often mistaken for sisters by strangers.
“When people see us together they usually think Amberly and I are sisters which is funny, but we tell them no we are all together,” Charlotte said. “We get strange looks, but I’m used to that being a redhead.”
Amberly added people are often “surprised or shocked” when they say they are actually in a relationship.
Originally, Charlotte, Amberly and Gabriel were in what they describe as a ‘V’ relationship – a polyamorous relationship involving three people, in which one person is romantically or sexually involved with two partners who are not romantically or sexually involved with each other.
However, all three of them have now developed romantic feelings for each other and are planning on moving in together and possibly get married.
“Well, most of the time when I tell people about us they think that I’m just joking until they hear it from Charlotte too,” Gabriel said.
“Other times people have been confused or just in disbelief of it all like it can’t be possible for that to work.”
Gabriel explains their polyamorous relationship formed after they all became friends.
“After some issues in our relationships at the time, we became friends and supported each other during our hardships and it developed into where we are now,” Gabriel said.
“We started to hang out together with [Charlotte’s] girlfriend [Amberly] and then after some time we were all talking about being polyamorous and what it meant to us.
“After a while we all had this connection like we all just had these feelings and we have slowly become a close family unit that love each other and actively attempt to participate with each other in the relationship.”
Charlotte and Gabriel currently live together, in Georgie, USA, are engaged to be married in October this year. They are planning on adapting their lifestyle to accommodate Amberly, from Florida, in their marital home.
“A few years ago, I was in another relationship that claimed to be polyamorous but in reality; it was simply an excuse for my partner to cheat and do as they wished without checking to see if I was being hurt in the process,” Amberly said.
“Polyamory requires a great deal of communication, talking, making sure that everyone is on board one-hundred-percent. If someone is having issues, then we work it out together and come to an agreement or a compromise.”
Despite their unconventional relationship, none of them have jealousy issues with Gabriel even encouraging Charlotte and Amberly’s relationship.
“I don’t really get jealous of their relationship, if anything I’m their biggest cheerleader. When Charlotte first told me, she was going to ask Amberly if she wanted to pursue a relationship with her, I told her ‘I hope she says yes. How awesome would that be’,” Gabriel said.
“When we do have feelings like jealousy we all sit down and talk about it and try our best to voice our feelings and concerns with one another.”
Despite the success of their relationship, Amberly says polyamory is not for everyone.
“It takes twice as much work as a monogamous relationship because you have more than just yourself to look after. The main point I’d like to stress is just how important communication is,” she says.
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