A woman has complained online after her ‘wealthy’ friend revealed she wanted money as a wedding gift - but rather than getting support, most people were on the bride’s side.
There has been much debate about whether or not it is okay to ask for money as a wedding gift, but taking to Reddit the unnamed poster revealed she would rather just buy a present.
She explained her friend is getting married and it’s the second marriage for both the bride and groom, adding they are relatively well-off and don’t shy away from trying to “outdo each other” in the gifting department.
“They have asked for money for their honeymoon,” she wrote in the post, adding that the couple already had a trip to Europe booked for a few weeks after the wedding.
“I don't generally agree with people doing this anyway but in this instance it's really bugging me and I don't want to fund their honeymoon when they could budget for that themselves.
“I do however want to get them a gift. I'm not sure what though.”
While she was likely after some support and potential gift ideas, most of the people responding to her thread didn’t agree and slammed her for being ‘judgy’.
“You want to get them a gift but not the gift they want? Surely it's better they have something they like,” one person wrote.
“I think this is a bit judgy. Most people could save up and pay for a toaster or some fancy sheets too if they wanted, but they still get them as wedding gifts,” another added.
“Just give her the money that you’d have spent on the gift. Why wouldn’t you?” another asked.
While a fourth wrote: “I think you’re being petty and making a mountain out of a molehill.”
There were a handful who defended the woman, especially given this was the bridal pair’s second wedding.
“When does the begging stop. FFS, they're hardly young newlyweds. Tacky AF telling people to buy them a holiday when they're already going on one. Give them a card,” one person fumed.
“I entirely get where you're coming from,” another agreed. “It may be a generational thing, but to me it feels extremely vulgar and grabby to ask for money. I can rationalise it all I want, but it doesn't sit well with me, it feels very wrong.”
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