Yahoo Lifestyle Woman Says Coworkers Who Celebrate 'Everyone' Forgot Her Birthday — And Are Now 'Blaming Me' for the Fact That They Forgot
The woman — who shared her story on Reddit — says she has contributed to multiple birthday funds for others but received absolutely nothing on her special day
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Coworkers celebrating birthday (stock image)A woman is claiming that her coworkers forgot her birthday — and it’s now causing tension at the office.
The woman — who recently vented her frustration on Reddit’s “Am I the A------,” forum — explained that she was hired last May and that her company claims it is “all about celebrating everyone.”
“I was asked and paid into collections for my [boss’s] birthday, 3 coworkers birthdays [where] everyone got flowers and cake and cards and balloons and free lunch. I sung happy birthday and participated in pictures, etc. I also participated in collections for coworkers when family died and my boss for the Christmas party,” she wrote.
However, the Redditor said that when it came time for her office to celebrate her birthday, she received nothing — not even a “happy birthday” — despite the fact that she had told coworkers she was “excited” for her birthday the week before and that the date is in the company’s email system.
The original poster (OP) shared that she ultimately mentioned that her birthday had come and gone to a client — but only because the client “knew there was someone on the staff with a birthday near hers” and was “trying to figure out” who her fellow Pisces was. The OP says that her client then “had lots to say” to office staff about the fact that they didn’t celebrate the OP.
Now, woman said that her coworkers are “blaming me" for “not giving them time to celebrate.”
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Woman holding a birthday cake (stock image)“It hurts I was forgotten, but I don't think I did anything wrong,” the OP wrote, before asking her fellow Reddit users if she perhaps should never have mentioned the situation to the client in the first place.
Redditors took to the comments section to rally behind the OP, assuring her that her feelings are totally valid and that she did nothing wrong by revealing her birth date to a client.
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“NTA [not the a------],” wrote one Reddit user. “Company’s big on birthdays, you’ve pitched in for everyone else, even the boss’s stuff. You dropped your birthday was coming, it’s in the system, and they still forgot. That stings, no shame in feeling it. Client asked, you answered, she went off on them—not your fault. Coworkers saying you didn’t give them time? Lame excuse. They’re just pissed they looked bad. You’re good, they dropped the ball.”
“NTA. If this is something that happens for everyone and suddenly no one did it for you, I’d be upset too. You gave plenty of time and your birthday is in the system, what more did they want you to do?” agreed another commenter.
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Another person noted that the whole debacle now puts the OP in a “difficult position moving forward,” the OP will likely be pressured to continue contributing to birthday funds for other people despite the fact that nothing was done for her. “I would not fault you for not contributing to celebrations going forward,” they wrote, adding, “But [if] you did that, it would all but guarantee you won’t be celebrated again next year and won’t have a great social standing in the workplace.”
Someone else shared that the entire story perfectly illustrates why they believe workplace birthday celebrations should become obsolete. “NTA. And people should seriously stop doing this stuff at work. Celebrate family or friends or whoever you want, but don’t drag it into the office,” they wrote.
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