Yahoo Lifestyle Woman Admits Her Boyfriend Gives Her the ‘Ick’ Because He Treats Her Like a Child on Dates: ‘Makes Me Physically Recoil’
“He strokes my face and hair ... like a full hand sliding down my face and ruining my make up,” she wrote on Mumsnet
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A couple at a movie theater (stock image)A woman is on the verge of breaking up with her boyfriend because he treats her “like a child” during their dates.
Sharing some of her 43-year-old boyfriend’s behaviors that give her the “ick,” the 37-year-old woman pondered on the U.K.-based forum Mumsnet if it’s “kinder to just end the relationship” now or to keep dating him.
“He’s wonderful and amazing and we could have an amazing life together but I just can’t shake this feeling that he gives me the ick, massively,” she confessed about the man she’s been dating for eight months.
She added that they met through online dating and he has several redeeming qualities that have kept her from breaking up with him.
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A couple on an awkward date (stock image)“He’s so kind and generous and totally in love with me and I can’t put my finger on the issue and I’ve tried so hard to get over this feeling,” she explained. “We’re meant to be spending the day together today and all I can think is dread that he’s going to come to my house and going to want to sleep with me — the thought is filling me with dread.”
The girlfriend admitted that while she loves his company in general, she feels as though the “chemistry” they had when they started dating is no longer there when they’re on dates for several particular reasons.
“He does some things that really bug me and although I’ve brought them up before, he stops for a while but is starting again,” she wrote. “When we go out in public, for dinner, etc., he tries to full-on kiss me at the table, he strokes my face and hair, not a gentle stroke but it’s like a full hand sliding down my face and ruining my make up, it makes me physically recoil!”
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A couple on a date (stock image)Another incident that rubbed her the wrong way took place during their movie date.
“We went out to the cinema the other night and I said I was just going to get up to use the ladies [bathroom] halfway through the film and he came with me and waited outside the toilets for me. I felt like a child,” she said.
Wondering whether she can “get over the ick,” the woman asked the Mumsnet forum, “Is this the sign that I need to break up with him?” She then claimed if they broke up she “would love to stay friends” but she tried that before a few months ago and he “would rather go no contact.”
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Her March 9 post on Mumsnet garnered passionate responses, with some readers finding similarities to their own past relationships.
“I would end it. I had an almost identical situation, but the behavior you describe was so similar,” one woman commented. “We went to a party with his friends and when we were all sitting chatting he would text me things like, ‘I'm so proud to be here with you’ he was literally sitting right next to me.’ ... I ended it and went no contact, it was the kindest thing to do.”
The original poster replied, jokingly saying, “He’s done similar with me too! Is this the same guy?! He’ll text me with how proud he is to be with me, and he stares at me out in public with these puppy dog eyes. I also noticed in the cinema, that he wasn’t watching the film but just staring at me!”
The general consensus from commenters was for the woman to break up.
“Your ick is your instincts telling you he's a f------ nutjob,” a Mumsnet user concluded, trying to sum up the girlfriend’s feelings. “Men who act like this early on end up being possessive and controlling later on.”
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