How to talk to kids about the DC plane crash with compassion and reassurance

When a tragedy like yesterday’s DC plane crash happens, it can feel overwhelming—not just for us as adults, but especially for children who may not fully understand what’s going on. They might overhear conversations, see something on the news, or pick up on our emotions and sense that something is wrong. As parents, caregivers, and loved ones, we have an opportunity to guide them through difficult moments with honesty, reassurance, and love.

Start with their questions

Before offering information, take a moment to ask what they already know. A simple “Have you heard anything about a plane crash?” or “How are you feeling today?” can give you insight into what’s on their mind. Let them share at their own pace, and listen with full presence. Sometimes, what they’re feeling isn’t about the facts, but rather the emotions surrounding the event.

If they haven’t heard about it and aren’t likely to, you may choose not to bring it up—especially if it’s not directly affecting their world. However, if they do know, creating space for an open conversation is key.

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Use simple, honest language

Children process information differently depending on their age, so keep explanations clear, age-appropriate, and reassuring. You might say:

For younger kids (under 7):

“A plane had an accident, and some people died. It’s really sad, and people are helping their families now.”

For older kids (7-12):

“There was a plane crash in DC, and unfortunately, some people lost their lives. This is really rare, and people are working hard to understand what happened so it never happens again and support the families affected.”

For teens:

At this age, kids may be more aware of news and might want more details. You can share what you know in an honest but reassuring way, reminding them that airline travel remains very safe. If they express sadness or concern, let them know it’s okay to feel that way, and ask how you can support them.

Reassure them about their safety

It’s completely natural for kids to wonder, Could this happen to us? After a tragedy, children may feel more anxious about flying or even about general safety. Without dismissing their concerns, offer them perspective:

“Airplane travel is one of the safest ways to go places. Pilots and engineers work really hard to keep everything safe, and crashes like this are extremely rare.”

If your child is still feeling uneasy, you might say: “Do you remember the last time we were on a plane? What was your favorite part of the trip?” Redirecting their focus to positive memories can be grounding.

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Limit exposure to news and social media

In today’s world, even young kids can be exposed to breaking news through TV, social media, or overheard conversations. While it’s important for older children to stay informed, too much exposure—especially to tragic or graphic details—can increase anxiety and fear.

If they’ve already seen something upsetting, acknowledge their feelings:

“I know seeing or hearing about this can be scary. If you have any questions, you can always talk to me about it.”

For younger kids, consider turning off the news or changing the subject if you sense they are feeling overwhelmed.

Watch for signs of anxiety or worry

Children may not always tell us directly when they’re feeling unsettled, but their emotions can show up in other ways, like:

• Trouble sleeping

• Asking the same safety-related questions repeatedly

• Being extra clingy or emotional

• Seeming distracted or anxious

If you notice these signs, offer extra reassurance and comfort. Sometimes, all they need is a little more snuggle time, a bedtime story, or a quiet moment with you to feel safe again.

Encourage acts of kindness

When faced with difficult news, children often feel better when they can do something to help. You might encourage them to:

• Write a card or say a prayer for the families affected.

• Plant a flower or light a candle as a quiet remembrance.

• Talk about the helpers—the first responders, pilots, doctors, and community members who come together in times of tragedy.

Reminding children that love, kindness, and support always follow hard times can help them find hope even in difficult moments.

Closing thoughts: Leading with love

Difficult conversations are never easy, but they are moments of connection—opportunities to help our children feel safe, heard, and supported. The most important thing is to be present, answer their questions honestly, and remind them that they are loved.

And if you find yourself struggling with your own emotions, give yourself grace. It’s okay to feel sad, too. Children learn by watching us, and when they see us process difficult news with care and compassion, they learn how to do the same.

You don’t have to have all the answers. You just have to be there.