Prince Harry's 'cruel' fight with Meghan led to therapy: 'I snapped'

The Duke of Sussex has recounted the explosive argument with Meghan in his new memoir Spare.

Prince Harry has admitted to “snapping” at his wife Meghan Markle during a heated argument. In his memoir Spare, which was released in Spain days ahead of its release date, the Duke of Sussex recounted his “angry” outburst.

Blaming the vicious fight on cultural differences and a language barrier, the royal alleges he interpreted one of Meghan’s comments “the wrong way”. Us Weekly has published an excerpt where Harry recalls how ‘cruel and harsh’ he was towards his wife, leading him to seek therapy to resolve his issues.

Prince Harry and Meghan Markle in England during the mourning period for the Queen
Prince Harry has recounted a vicious fight he had with Meghan Markle. Photo: Getty

“Maybe the wine went to my head. Maybe the weeks of battling the press had worn me down. For some reason, when the conversation took an unexpected turn, I became touchy,” he writes. “Then angry. Disproportionately, sloppily angry.”

“I was also just over-sensitive that night. I thought: ‘Why’s she having a go at me?’. I snapped at her, spoke to her harshly [and] cruelly,” he adds.


Harry writes that as soon as he spat out the ‘harsh’ words, his wife immediately left the room.

“I could feel everything in the room come to a stop. The gravy stopped bubbling, the molecules of air stopped orbiting. Even Nina Simone seemed to pause,” he says.

Three photos of Harry and Meghan hugging and kissing in black and white
Harry has shared an insight into his life with Meghan. Photo: Netflix

Harry waited for a “full 15 minutes”, before finding Meghan quietly sitting in their bedroom. She addressed his behaviour and told him she wouldn’t “tolerate” a partner who lashed out like that.

“She was calm, but said in a quiet, level tone that she would never stand for being spoken to like that. I nodded. She wanted to know where it came from,” he writes.

“[She asked] ‘Where did you ever hear a man speak like that to a woman? Did you overhear adults speak that way when you were growing up?’. I cleared my throat, looked away [and replied], ‘Yes’.”


Harry says that the Duchess of Sussex refused to bring up their children in “an atmosphere of anger or disrespect”.

He adds that the couple “knew” his anger didn’t bubble up over Meghan’s words, but likely came from other issues he had yet to work on.

“It came from somewhere deep inside, somewhere that needed to be excavated, and it was obvious that I could use some help with the job,” he writes. When he told Meghan that he had already tried therapy without success, recommended by his brother William, she urged him to “try again”.

Cover of Prince Harry's book Spare
The royal family is worried about what Harry has revealed in his explosive memoir. Photo: Penguin Random House

Prince Harry’s X-rated Meghan ‘mistake’

This comes after Harry shared he sought out Meghan’s sex scenes from the US show Suits. In his memoir, Harry says that he ‘Googled her love scenes’ when they started dating, but believes it was a huge “mistake”.

“I’d witnessed her and a castmate mauling each other in some sort of office or conference room,” he recalls. “I didn’t need to see such things live.”

The 38-year-old adds that he needs “electric-shock therapy” to remove his wife’s onscreen sex scenes from his head.

Prince Harry has revealed he made a terrible X-rated mistake when he started dating Meghan Markle. Photo: USA Network
Prince Harry has revealed he made a terrible X-rated mistake when he started dating Meghan Markle. Photo: USA Network

Meghan starred on the hit TV show from 2011 to 2018 as lawyer Rachel Zane. Her love interest throughout the seven seasons was Mike Ross, played by Patrick J. Adams.

Once the Duchess of Sussex chose to leave acting behind to join the royal family, her storyline was tied up with the two characters getting married onscreen.

Patrick famously attended Meghan and Harry’s royal wedding with his wife, Pretty Little Liars star Troian Bellisario.

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