Polyamorous throuple hits back at cruel trolls

Kristine Tarbert
·Senior Lifestyle & Entertainment Producer
·3-min read

This polyamorous throuple is hitting back after cruel trolls told them they were ‘going to hell’.

Shayla Oliphant first met James Bolden in high school where they dated for a while before drifting apart. But they resumed the relationship in 2015 and after four years of dating, the couple decided to switch things up and spoke about extending their relationship.

That’s when the pair, now 26 and 28, met Shantay Nelson, 30, and the group began their life as a throuple in 2019.

throuple Shayla Oliphant James Bolden and Shantay Nelson
Shayla and James first met in highschool. Photo: Media Drum World/Australscope

“Everything changed when Shantay joined us,” Shayla, from Arizona, said.

“James and I were able to watch each other fall in love with her, which extended our own relationship with each other. From the beginning, we all just clicked. We’d been actively searching for someone to join us for a few years.

“Polyamory is something that has to be experienced to be fully understood. It’s about communication, commitment, and love. We don’t choose and stick with one single thing in any other area of our lives. Why should we with love?”

The trio has never been happier, yet navigating a polyamorous relationship isn’t without its struggles. Whilst James receives pats on the back and comments like, ‘your life must be awesome,’ Shayla and Shantay are constantly quizzed on how they deal with jealousy.

polyamorous throuple james shantay and shayla
They started dating Shantay in 2019. Photo: Media Drum World/Australscope

“Jealousy is a natural human emotion but what’s important is how we react to it. That means communicating the concern to my partners if I feel the need to. No one is above the other,” Shayla explained.

“When we first became a triad, I was on my period and couldn’t fully join in during sex. I got jealous and stopped the whole thing. I felt so bad because I already knew that sex would happen without me.

“We talked it through later and I made clear that it was my fault and not theirs. We became more understanding of each other and simply moved on.”

Shayla said that after posting a photo on Instagram they did receive some hate, but most have been supportive.

“Once after posting a picture of us all on Instagram, someone commented telling us how we were ‘disrespecting the Lord,’ and would ‘go to hell’ for what we were doing,” she revealed.

“But we have the opportunity to both nurture our relationship as a whole and the relationships within it. It’s a level of commitment that allows us to be open and real with each other.”

polyamorous trio
They've received some hate online but most people are supportive. Photo: Media Drum World/Australscope

Their families were unsure at first about the idea of the relationship but soon after saw how happy the throuple was. A similar sentiment is felt on the triad’s social media pages where people have been inspired by the group to experiment in their own relationships.

“Everyone has been more than accepting to all of us. Shantay’s sister was hesitant at first but she realised how truly happy Shantay was. Likewise, my mother was confused but has warmed to the idea since then,” Shayla said.

“Thousands of people listen to our podcast, 3lationship Goals, and send messages of love and support - whether they are polyamorous or not.

“People use our experience to bring up the idea with their own partners. Our platform has also allowed people to educate themselves on what it means to be poly.”

Additional reporting by Media Drum World.

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