Yahoo Lifestyle This Paralyzed Man And His Fiancée Explained How They Have Sex, And People Are Saying It Is The Most Informative Content On The Internet Right Now
Meet Southern California-based couple Amber Cogbill and Neven Hart.
Despite being in their early 20s, the pair has already overcome a lot together after a dirt bike accident left Neven paralyzed two years ago.
They've been gaining a lot of attention by answering questions and sharing their experiences after Neven's injury on social media. However, a recent video where they explained how they have sex has over 30 million people praising their vulnerability. The video is being called an educational necessity for sensitive topics.
The couple told BuzzFeed that even though Neven can't feel his penis, they want people to know that sex and intimacy is possible and enjoyable.
So, let's get to how they do the deed, shall we?! Here is Amber and Neven's viral explainer, which we will break down after:
Before they have sex, Neven injects a medication called Trimix into the base of his penis to get him hard. Within five minutes, he will be fully erect.
The pair also want to spread awareness about how expensive it is for them to have sex. Amber said that two vials are $140 and they are not covered by insurance.
After Neven is hard, the two get creative with the positions they learned during physical therapy. Neven said some people assume he just lays down since he can't move his legs, but he revealed he is far from a ~pillow princess~. 😆
They said there are foam pieces available to help with positions, but they have found something called the Intimate Rider to be the most helpful. The Intimate Rider is a chair designed for people living with spinal cord injuries and other mobility-limiting disabilities. The chair rocks and moves simply when the person sitting in it moves their head.
This chair was also not covered by insurance. They said it costs over $500 but has been worth every penny.
The hardest challenge, according to Neven, has been not being able to do any sex positions that he used to do. "It's kinda like you're a virgin and doing it for the first time; it doesn't go as smoothly as you thought it would. With time, you learn what works and what doesn't. In this case, practice makes perfect. Not being able to feel at first is a challenge, but you learn how to enjoy sex in new ways," he shared.
Amber added, "The hardest challenge for having sex with a paralyzed person for me was the thought that he can't feel anything. This was very difficult for me to overcome at first because I felt as if I wasn't able to please him anymore like I was able to before he was injured."
Many people on TikTok now feel like they've been educated on a topic that they have always been genuinely curious about.
And it is helping so many people who are in or have loved ones in the same position.
Everything from the way they approached the topic to how open they were is being recognized and appreciated.
And people are ready to hear more about their lives!
"Going through a traumatic injury like this at such a young age teaches you to appreciate the small things. We have learned how to communicate and work together as a team. We were best friends before the accident and even more so now. We have grown closer than most couples our age, and we never miss the chance to say, 'I love you!' because we know how quickly life can change," Amber concluded.
Special thanks to Amber and Neven who share a lot of content on their various social platforms. Be sure to follow them for more:
Amber's Instagram: @amber.cogbill
Neven's Instagram: @neven_hart19
Amber's TikTok: @ambercogbill03
Neven's TikTok: @nevenhart
Couple's YouTube: @ambercogbill03
