Mom Threatens to Stop Her 5-Year-Old from Taking Photos with Her In-Laws Unless They Include Her Husband’s Stepdaughter

• A mom shared on the U.K. community forum Mumsnet that her in-laws often exclude her elder daughter, whom her husband is helping raise as his stepdaughter, from family photos because she is not their biological grandchild

• The woman asked for opinions on her plan to instruct her younger daughter, who is 5, to not pose for any family photos on Easter Sunday unless her elder sister is included

• Many commenters shared the view that a 5-year-old should not have to manage the situation and that the woman should address the issue directly with her in-laws

A mom is fed up with her in-laws excluding her elder daughter from a previous relationship — and she wants to put her foot down.

Sharing her story in a post on the U.K. community forum Mumsnet, the woman explained that she has "issues" with her in-laws not including her elder daughter — whom her husband is helping to raise as his stepdaughter — in family photos because she is not their biological granddaughter. She said the situation "upsets" her daughter.

Providing more context, the woman noted that her brother-in-law has two sets of children, the oldest of whom are in their 20s.

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"I saw [father-in-law] talking to one of them and the nephew then chatted to the elder siblings and cousins and they then took turns to take photos," she wrote. "When my eldest [daughter] took the photos instructions were given to her, and it is ALWAYS these photos that appear at in-laws' [house]. So pictures of bio grandchildren without my daughter."

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Now that Easter is approaching and the family will be gathering together, the woman is concerned about once again putting her elder daughter in an uncomfortable position of being excluded. So she's come up with a potential plan.

She asked readers, "On Easter Saturday can I instruct my five year old not to stand in any photos with her cousins without her sister?"

In the comments, many people told the woman she needs to address the issue directly with her in-laws rather than making her 5-year-old have to handle the problem.

"It’s not appropriate to expect a 5 year old to manage this tricky situation," one person wrote. "The second an adult says 'it’s fine, just take the picture' she will crumble. If this is a problem for you, you need to stand nearby and manage it yourself."

Another said, "You are an adult — handle it like an adult by talking to the other adults rather than drag a 5 year old into it."

Someone else suggested the idea of the woman asking her husband to broach the delicate subject with his own family.

"I think your husband needs to address the issue with his parents/siblings privately beforehand, and let them know that it's important to him that they treat you all as a family and don't exclude your daughter," they wrote.

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Others, however, shared the opinion that it's "reasonable" for the woman's in-laws to want "photos of their grandchildren all together to display."

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"It sounds like they’re not excluding her on the day — but rotating the photographer? So she is in some but not others, to still include her at the time," a user commented. "I don’t think you can ask for more than this."

But many insisted that the in-laws need to be more mindful about how they treat the woman's elder daughter, describing their behavior with the photos as hurtful and "insensitive."

"Unpopular opinion but if your child marries someone with children and they act as a stepparent role too, you’re a crappy parent/grandparent for clearly excluding that child," a reader wrote.

Another agreed, chiming in: "You may not always feel the same as you do with your bio grandchildren, and that’s okay, but to clearly exclude someone who is a huge part of your adult son's life is crappy."

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