Yahoo Lifestyle Men Are Sharing The Common "Icks" They've Gotten From Other Men, And I'm Actually Concerned
We've all heard about common 'icks' women get from men; now it's time to hear about the icks men get from men.
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Recently, I decided to ask men for the icks and red flags they get from other men that have made them say, "Wait, this guy is a total weirdo," or just realize they don't want this dude in their life. So without further ado, here are their answers:
1."So many men don't wash their hands. Women, you don't realize how many men just don't wash their hands. Seriously. They don't. Wash. Their hands. And then they go back out to the bar or the game or the living room with their vile bathroom hands. It makes me want to scream."
—Anonymous
2."Men who sexualize underage women, especially when they use food-related language. Like, what do you mean she looks 'delicious?' She's 16, bruh."
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3."A few months ago, I was at Best Buy, and some guy started making small talk with me. 'What are you getting?' 'Have you tried this?' That kind of stuff. Two girls walked by us. I’d guess them to be around 14 or so."
"It was hot outside so they were in shorts and tank tops. Once they were out of earshot the guy said to me, 'The things I’d like to do to them would be illegal in all 50 states.' 🤮 I said, 'Dude, you’re a pig!' and walked away."
4."Creepy dudes just can't wait to drop a little misogyny early and often. Shitty people in general love to anti-virtue signal about sex, gender, race, religion, Hollywood, and guns."
"There is no point waiting to see if they'll do it again before you distance yourself, because they can't NOT do it again. They're compulsive subhuman scum. They're testing how far they can push you, and I'm not interested in being pushed. Cut your losses and run. Fast and far."
5."This is very random, and maybe it is because I grew up with sisters, but it really bugs me when men aggressively refuse to wear chapstick."
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"I work in construction and have been called 'gay' for wearing chapstick. Guys, is it gay to have uncomfortable and painful, cracked, dry lips in the wintertime? I mean, let's be for real here."
—Anonymous
6."I can't stand when men talk about [what] their girlfriend does or doesn't do in the bedroom."
"I'm a man but I can imagine what it would be like as a woman to hear someone you trust talk/brag about you in such a demeaning way, and it legit just makes me sad."
—Anonymous
7."I have a few. To add context, I'm above average height, so I get a lot of shorter dudes always trying to prove themselves by:"
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"• [Using a] vice-like grip during a handshake, trying their best to crush my hand.• Bragging about all their sexual conquests (real and imagined) using really vulgar terms.• Making really racist/sexist 'jokes' that are never funny because they aren't jokes, it's just [them] saying something completely out of pocket and then laughing about it."
8."When a guy says he's an 'Alpha Male' you can bet your bottom dollar he isn't. It's so cringe."
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9."They boast about bullying and trolling others, then invent lies about them... major red flag territory."
10."When a friend of mine would call me to tell me not to call him after the call. Why? Because he told his wife that he was coming to my house to hang, but was actually using me as a front to cover for his cheating. That friendship didn't last long after that. Big ick!"
11."I'm gay and I hate when it turns out a guy I'm seeing is a toxic gay. You know who I mean. Obsessed with being thin, being muscular, looking extremely young..."
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"I get dealing with body image issues for yourself, but as soon as a guy makes a catty comment disparaging another person's appearance, I'm gone. I've been around too long, I see who you are on the inside."
—Anonymous
12."This is gonna sound kinda out of touch, but for K-12, I went to private school (K-8 was all boys, high school was co-ed), and we were all encouraged to work really hard and go above and beyond. I'm a sophomore in college now, and in my freshman year, I was so shocked at the difference between the work I put into school and the effort other guys put in."
"Personally I hate being grouped with other guys for group projects. I'm not trying to knock on sending kids to public school, but it seems like most 'normal,' publicly educated boys really slack off in school. Seems like a cultural problem."
—Anonymous
13."Tobacco. No amount of brushing will hide that cigarette breath. It's encrusted in your lungs, man, don't hide it. It makes kissing just awful."
—Anonymous
14."A man who acts like a child when things don't go his way. Also, a man who mocks your depression by telling you, 'You're still a white man, so it's okay.'"
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15."Those guys who brag about being male feminists... and are anything but. If you're a decent person, you don't need to let anyone know."
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"[Also,] grown men who argue with children online, [and] grown men who can't understand other people might have different opinions as themselves without getting angry."
16."I was 11. Fishing trip with my uncle and dad. Uncle started making jokes about his wife (my aunt by marriage), nothing sexual, but just mean. I think it was about how frantic she was planning Thanksgiving."
"My dad joined in on the jokes. I remember thinking it was uncalled for, I loved my aunt and thought she was great. I was surprised my uncle said that and even more surprised my dad laughed along."
—Anonymous
17."As a gay man, a big turnoff is a man who is too worried about his (toxic, alpha) masculinity — and mine!"
—Anonymous
18."When men don’t wash their hands after going to the bathroom, especially if they just left a stall. YUCK! YUCK!"
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—Anonymous
19."Constantly using 'jokes' to belittle others and garner laughs from the friend group — real 'alpha male' toxic behavior."
—Anonymous
20."A guy I’ve known since college has no kids of his own and started referring to mine by disparaging names. Example: 'How is the spoiled brat today?' That was enough for me to finally close the door on a friendship that should’ve ended a long time before."
—Anonymous
21."I'm not trying to be soft or a lib, but I actually just can't stand when guys disparage women for literally no reason or for the sole reason of her sex."
"Of course it's offensive, but more than that, it's fucking unintelligent."
—Anonymous
22.And finally: "I think oftentimes women don't realize just how badly men speak about them when the girls aren't around. But a couple of days ago, I was out after work with guys from my job, and this dude from the office I considered pretty cool started talking about his girlfriend in a way that was honestly disgusting."
"I'm not like a person who gets easily offended but I was surprised that anybody would just openly speak like that.
What makes it worse is I met this girlfriend a few months ago at a birthday party of a mutual friend, and she was like, the sweetest girl ever. Super cute, works in a veterinarian's office, and brought wine and homemade cupcakes to this party. Everybody likes her. I'm shocked that somebody dating her could be cruel enough to talk so badly about her for no reason. No idea why he thought we'd be chill with that. I left the bar and told my own girlfriend about it. She thinks I should message this girl and tell on my coworker."
—Anonymous
Let me know what you think in the comments below. And men, if you have any more icks to share, please, feel free!
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