Five Friends You Need

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The helping hand

Psychologist John Aiken says this friend is a crucial part of your network. You break your foot, she turns up with groceries. You hate your job, she spends Saturday morning with you job hunting online. Her tangible support means she’ll take an active stance in helping you sort out your life. "It’s in her nature to be caring and kind," notes Aiken. "She teaches you selflessness and what it means to be a true friend."
Best for: An emergency.
Worst for: Seeking a solution.

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The cheerleader

She's the one priming you for that job interview or cheering you on when you’re training for your first half-marathon. She gives what psychologists term "esteem" support – she always believes in you. "She sees things that you might not always see in yourself," points out Aiken. "Just knowing someone has faith in you boosts self-belief."
Best for: When you’re trying out something new.
Worst for: A reality check.

The guru

This friend can be as blunt as a worn-out eyeliner, but you know those brutally honest words mean she’ll never let you make a fool of yourself. From the best bolognaise recipe to how to handle your boss, she offers the opinions you respect the most. "Gurus offer support in the form of advice-giving, or in sharing information," says Aiken. "She gives you the ability to see beyond yourself."
Best for: An honest opinion.
Worst for: A good moan.

The listener

When you’re feeling needy, this friend’s on speed dial. She’s an A-grade listener with bags of emotional intelligence, and she’s always there to lead you through life’s minefields. "Her unconditional emotional support means she accepts who you really are," states Aiken.
Best for: A shoulder to cry on.
Worst for: A good look at yourself.

The substitute sister

You've known her forever – she remembers your braces and every hairstyle you've ever had. She sees you beyond your high-powered job or new wardrobe. "Old friends confirm who we are at heart," says Aiken. "The experience and shared history realigns you with your core values."
Best for: A reality check.
Worst for: Seeing you in a new light.

And the ones to cull..

The underminer
She gives the impression she’s a great mate, but there’s always an undercurrent of competition. New boyfriend? The underminer will point out his receding hairline. "It’s not a friendship if you’re basing your relationship on results," explains Aiken.

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The drainer
You hear from her when she needs something or wants to vent. But turn the tables and she’s nowhere to be found. While you may try to support her at first, you end up feeling drained. "If you’re thinking, 'Oh no, I've got to see Claire today', it’s time to move on," says Aiken.