15 Women Shared The Totally Mundane Moment When They Realized Their Husband Was "The One," And It's More Romantic Than Any Movie

Before people get married, they usually have a specific moment in their relationship when they realize their partner is "the one." So when Reddit user u/MankersOnReddit asked: "Married women of Reddit, what was it that your husband did that made you realize, 'he's the one?'" I was so excited to see how wholesome the stories were. Here are some of them below:

1."About two months into dating, we'd gotten to the point where we would just visit each other's apartments randomly. He came over to visit, but unfortunately, I was stuck on the toilet with a UTI. Honestly, I felt like I had to pee all day and just could not leave the bathroom. I embarrassingly explained this to him through the bathroom door, and he said, 'No problem, hold on a minute.' He slowly opens the door with his eyes closed, a stool in one hand and his laptop in another. He sets his laptop on the sink opposite me and the stool into my shower, which was divided from the toilet by a closet (so we could both see the laptop, but not each other.) Then he sat down, and we watched Happy Feet together while I was in the toilet the whole time. I nearly cried."

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2."Growing up, I didn't have the best example of love as my parents fought a lot and weren't very 'lovey-dovey,' but when I met my biological father at the age of 16, he really set a standard. I remember sitting on his back patio with him and his wife, and they were holding hands and just enjoying their evening. When he looked at her and said, 'Have I told you I love you today?' She responded, 'No, I don't think so.' To which he said, 'Oh, I will. By the end of the day, I'll let you know.' Damn, it was simple but so cute. (He later explained it was a twist on a movie quote but one he always really liked.) They did little things like that a lot, and I knew at that particular moment that I wanted that same treatment."

"Sure enough, one day, my now husband and I were sitting together, just relaxing with a movie, and he said, 'Have I told you how much I love you today?' I smiled and said, 'No, not yet,' and had tears in my eyes. He was, of course, confused, and I explained what had me so taken aback. I had never told him that story before. I knew right then that I didn't want to spend my life with anyone else; I had found what I was looking for."


3."I remember sitting with him in the car. He was driving, and it was quiet. I looked over and had a feeling of peace, calm, and a feeling of home — and that's when I knew we were going to be together forever."

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4."He was kind to a homeless man. He knew his name, and the man knew his. We will be married 20 years next week. Friday night, on our way home from dinner, waiting at a red light, a homeless man who has been frequenting the intersection did a little dance and flashed us the peace sign. My husband rolled down his window and handed his to-go box out to him. There was an untouched, beautiful hamburger in that to-go box, which he was looking very forward to eating later on. And I thought, twenty years later: Perfect. He is still perfect."


5."He took me to an outdoor concert when we hadn't been dating long. It was a hot day, and I was dehydrated, so I passed out. He picked me up and carried me through the crowd to the first aid tent. I woke up while he was carrying me and realized that I had fallen in love with a superhero who would always be there to protect me. Five years later, he emigrated to another country for me, and we're happily married."

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6."He told me he loved me. And I could feel it in my heart. The way he looked at me so often. How he touched me with love. The way he smiled at me when I looked at him. [We've been together for] 40 years."


7."He had a cork on a string tied up in a doorway as a toy for his cat. It was a very cute cat that would wait outside the house for him to return from work and would follow him down the road to the shops. That cat really loved him, and they are good judges of character. I figured someone who treated his cat right would treat me right. 20 years on (and on cat number three), and I have been proven right every day. Plus, he snogged like a king on our first date!"

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8."He went on a three-day road trip with a friend, and I was in abject misery the entire time. I distinctly remember wandering into my kitchen, opening the fridge for the thousandth time that day, and just staring into it, thinking, 'Wtf is wrong with me? Oh my god, I love him.' He got back from his trip at around 1:00 a.m., called me, and immediately got right back in his car and drove to my house. I confessed my realization, and he said, 'It's about time!' We've been together ever since. That was August '99, and we got married in October '01."


9."The first time he met my family, we were at a lake house. I went to take my dog out in the yard, and I unknowingly walked into a massive ground bee nest with my pup. They got in my dress/bathing suit and were all in my dog's fur. I ran screaming into the house with my dog. Both of us were covered in bees, and we brought dozens of bees into the house with us. He ripped all of the bees out of my dog's fur, helped my mom kill all of the bees I brought into the house with me while I was literally running around screaming and ripping my clothes off, and then retrieved my purse that I dropped near the nest, which had so many bees on it you could barely see the actual material of my bag. That was one of the most terrifying moments of my life so far (because of bees in my bathing suit), but I remember being so shocked that someone I had not been dating that long was caring enough to battle a shit ton of bees for me."

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10."We had been dating on and off for almost a year. I am a huge bookworm and wanted to go to a book reading on Halloween by one of my favorite authors, but I couldn't think of anyone who would want to go. He immediately jumped at the chance, got really dressed up, took me out for dinner, and then drove me to the book reading. He loved the reading even though he'd never read a book by the author before. I could tell he was so happy to be there. Then he insisted we stay after to get a book signed no matter how long it took, and we were almost at the end of the line, so it took about two hours. When we finally got to meet the author, he complimented my now husband for dressing so nicely and, in my book, wrote, 'To CoachKnope, I envy you.' (He's gay, by the way)."

"We've now been together five years, two married, and have a baby on the way. We like to joke that it was his approval that sealed the deal, but the whole night made me realize how exceptionally thoughtful he was and how happy he was just to be with me — that's when I knew how lucky I was to have him, and I wasn't letting go. The author's approval was the cherry on top."


11."When we had been dating for two months, and I found out I was two and half months pregnant from a one-night stand. He told me not to worry and that we would figure it out. We were married five months later and had five great years and one more kid before he passed away."

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12."I'm kinda quirky. I built a Chuck-e-Cheese-style ball pit in my apartment in college. (It was in a closet under the stairs.) The thing was, I was poor, and those balls were expensive, so it was a very small ball pit. During finals week, he insisted he drive me to one of my finals. I kept saying I'd be fine, but he said it was too cold and it would be nice to be picked up in an already warmed-up car. He said it would be late, and he didn't want me waking in the dark, etc. Finally, I agreed. I took my final, walked out, and got into his car. He gave me this look, then looked to the backseat, then back to me. I looked at the backseat of his car to find that he had filled it with 800 ball pit balls. They were my Christmas gift. We've been married for two years now, together for almost five."


13."He put his hand on my back when we were walking down the street. Something about the way he touched me was unlike the touch of any other boyfriend before him. I can't really explain it. When he put his hand on my back, I felt like he was promising to always take care of me and protect me even though I knew all he was doing was walking down the street."

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14."I knew I wanted to be with him the night we met, and the movie we saw shook me up emotionally, and he was comforting me. But I knew I wanted to be with him forever when I saw him play with his children. They were coming over for their weekend with dad, and he said, 'I swear I'm not ignoring you, but I missed them.' I said go for it; they're your babies. Getting down on the ground playing action figures with them, 'understanding' the 2-year-old's babbling stories, letting the 6-year-old take the lead on the storyline, he wasn't just a father, he was a daddy. I knew he was the one to be the daddy to my children. He's only gotten sweeter and more loving as the years pass."


15.And finally, "My moment came while I was staying over at his apartment. Up until that point, he only had one pillow on his bed, and we would share it. The next day, we went to the store, and he bought two brand-new pillows so we would both be comfortable. That, and he came to bed with his mouth guard in, and I sheepishly held up mine, too. Also, the time that I accidentally farted horribly loud. He lifted up his leg and let out a 'courtesy fart' so I wouldn't feel bad. It's meant to be."

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People who identify as women, share with us when you realized your husband was "the one" in the comments below: