A groom-to-be has taken to the internet to ask for advice after his bride-to-be shocked him with a wedding night sex request.
The 23-year-old is planning to get married to his 23-year-old girlfriend at the beginning of next year ‘if all goes to plan’, however she completely took him off guard a few nights ago when she asked him to take part in a traditional family ritual on the night of the big day.
He explained in a Reddit thread that his wife-to-be has a huge extended family that she’s really close to, which is sometimes hard for him to deal with because his family is quite small.
Strangely, he noticed since they got engaged that her cousins sometimes make jokes about their wedding night, which he thought was odd, due to the fact he and his fiancée live together and have slept with each other already.
A few nights ago, his girlfriend told him that they wouldn’t need a bridal suite on the night of their wedding as she wanted to stay at her parents’ house.
He thought nothing of it as they’re saving for a house, however he knew there was more to the story.
“She tells me that there's a really old tradition in her family on the wedding night,” he explained.
“The husband and wife go into the master bedroom together and they are supposed to 'consummate' the marriage. The rest of the family are waiting outside the door so they can applaud them and cheer when they come out. Then a piece of the bed sheet is cut off and sewn into a big tapestry my GF's mother owns.”
Taken aback, the man went on to say that his girlfriend told him they wouldn’t actually have to consummate the marriage if he didn’t feel comfortable with it and they could just ‘pretend’ instead.
“I don't want anything to do with this. I absolutely freaked and told her under no circumstances will I be doing that kind of thing in front of her whole family,” he said.
“When I came back from taking a walk to clear my head, she was now noticeably acting down and still is. I think she's also been texting her family about this because I received a text from her mother telling me that I 'don't understand the importance of family' and tradition yet and this kind of tradition has been around longer than I've been alive.”
The man called his girlfriend his ‘whole world’ but asked for advice on how to navigate this ‘tradition’.
“Jesus, a family sex blanket? I sure hope it's only decorative and Grandma doesn't sleep with it,” one person wrote.
“The chances are that you'll go limp at the thought of grandma with a glass pressed to the door and cousin Billy peering through the keyhole, and be unable to consummate anyway,” another said.
“And they would be having sex in the master bedroom. Literally f****g in the parents' bed while the parents stand outside and listen. This is deeply messed up,” another said.
Providing some constructive feedback, one person wrote: “Resolve it before the wedding happens, because it's going to set the rules and comfort level for your entire marriage. You won't be able to get out of anything her family wants once you go through with this one.”
The ritual is in keeping with wedding night traditions from all over the world although it’s no longer considered the norm in modern culture.
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