Yahoo Lifestyle Groom 'Explodes' at Sister for 'Trying to Control' His Wedding
The groom accused his sister of trying to "relive" her wedding through his and threatened to disinvite her
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Stock image of a woman and man arguingOne woman wants to know if she overstepped when tried to help plan her brother's wedding.
In a post on Reddit's popular "Am I the A------?" forum, the woman, 35, asked users if she was in the wrong for getting defensive when her younger brother, 27, accused her of trying to make every wedding decision for him.
"One day while I was talking to my friend about how in my view their menu wasn't one that would please most guests, my brother exploded at me saying I was trying to control their wedding and that if they picked things it's because it mattered to them," the woman wrote.
She continued: "He was really rude to me saying I'm trying to relive my wedding through theirs, and that if I continued being like that he would uninvite me to the wedding."
The groom's sister, who is the maid of honor, said that problems started after she thought she was doing her brother and his fiancé, 31, a favor.
"Since I'm already married, I thought I was doing them a favor by helping them choose things like the venue, color palettes, suits, etc.," she explained.
In her brother's eyes, the woman was calling all of the shots for his wedding.
The poster continued to say that the couple wouldn't be together if it weren't for her. Her brother and best friend met through a blind date she arranged. Since then, she has been "encouraging" her "really shy" brother "to invest" in his relationship.
"I got defensive and told him I was trying to make it the perfect day for him, and that if it wasn't for me he wouldn't even have someone to marry at this point," she wrote. "I think that this hit him hard because he stopped talking to me about anything that wasn't about my role as maid of honor, and since the party he and my best friend haven't talked to me."
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Reddit users were united in their answer: The woman is being an "a------" in this situation. One user even reshared her post in the "Bridezillas" subreddit, labeling her a "MOH-zilla."
"It’s his and his husband’s wedding, not yours. The perfect day for him involves pleasing him and his husband, not you and your opinions of what his guests might like," one person commented in part. "If they ask you for your opinions, answer. But don’t try to undermine or sway their choices."
"You take sole credit for your brother and his fiancé getting together, all the while ignoring that if he didn't have a good personality or anything else to offer, he wouldn't have agreed to marry him," another person partially wrote. "You are giving unsolicited advice about every little thing. So what if he wants to have a menu that doesn't please most guests? That's only one opinion — yours. It's his wedding and his life."
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