Yahoo Lifestyle Doechii Has Been Queer. She Doesn’t Owe Straight Men Anything.
During her recent “Hot Ones” appearance, Doechii shared what she considers a “huge red flag” when it comes to dating: “a straight man.”
“Like, I mean, strike one, you’re a man,” she said to her DJ, Miss Milan, after the two shared a laugh and shook on it, “and you’re heterosexual.”
The Grammy-winning rap artist, who identifies as bisexual, didn’t offer much explanation after revealing her answer. Likely because she’s been quite open about her queer identity ever since she broke into music with her 2020 hit “Yucky Blucky Fruitcake.” “I think I like girls, but I think I like men/ Doechii is a dick, I never fit in,” the lyrics state.
The revelation isn’t breaking news, especially for those familiar with Doechii before her explosive 2024 breakthrough. Still, that didn’t stop fevered discourse from erupting online once a clip of the 26-year-old’s “Hot Ones” response went viral on Friday.
Many of the comments and quote-tweets from male users on X (formerly Twitter) were, as expected, ignorant and homophobic. So much so that DJ Miss Milan took to the platform to defend Doechii’s remark.
“At this point, you all just want a reason to just overreact because now ‘preferences’ is a problem because she doesn’t want to date straight men lmao,” she wrote in one post. “Because you’re just getting hip to her major majority of her fan base has been LGBTQ community & she’s identified as Queer/Bi.”
At this point, you all just want a reason to just overreact because now “preferences“ is a problem because she doesn’t want to date straight men lmao. Because you’re just getting hip to her major majority of her fan base has been LGBTQ community & she’s identified as Queer/Bi.
— Milan Darlin Milan 🧚🏽♀️ (@DJMissMilan) March 7, 2025
Historically, male hip-hop fans haven’t been kind to or accepting of queer artists — the ’80s and ’90s rappers who purposely kept their sexuality private amid an era of vicious homophobia are proof of that. And despite LGBTQ representation making strides in modern hip-hop, a dark-skinned bisexual female rapper embracing her queerness can still spark all-out anarchy in 2025. The question is, why?
Doechii has never hid the fact that she’s queer. In 2022, she told British GQ she felt comfortable talking about her sexuality in her music “when I started getting more gay friends.”
“I always knew that I was queer, and I was bisexual,” she explained. “But I didn’t really feel comfortable talking about it because nobody around me was gay.”
That same year, Doechii told Vulture that her 2020 EP, “Oh the Places You’ll Go,” gave her the freedom to openly embrace her queerness after not acknowledging it previously.
“I was low-key closeted, but not really,” the rapper shared. “I just felt like I didn’t need to talk about it in my music. Really, it was more about me being scared to accept the fact that I like coochie.”
Now, Doechii doesn’t bite her tongue about being bisexual. On Tyler, the Creator’s 2024 song “Balloon,” she rhymed, “I’m a bi bitch, but I need that pussy now/ If he is gay, then I am gay, and we are nouns (We are nouns)/ Me and Tyler finna take your bitch down.” On her 2022 “Swamp Bitches” track, featuring Rico Nasty, Doechii rapped, “Let me jump inside of shawty pussy like a cannonball/ Freak, freak, freak, freak.” Even on her “Alligator Bites Never Heal” mixtape — which won a Grammy last month for Best Rap Album — Doechii declared herself “the new hip-hop Madonna” and “the trap Grace Jones” — two artists who have famously empowered the LGBTQ+ community.
The fact that an openly queer woman like Doechii is cautious about dating straight men shouldn’t be as controversial as it is, especially given the complexities of those relationship dynamics.
On her song “Denial Is a River,” the rapper was candid about the betrayal of her ex-boyfriend, who cheated on her with another man behind her back (she initially assumed he cheated with a woman because of who her partner was). When pressed about the experience on Power 105.1’s “The Breakfast Club” last year, Doechii clarified that her ex’s closeted sexuality wasn’t the issue; it was the infidelity “on top of lying and secrecy about who you are.” She later confirmed that she now has a girlfriend and the relationship is “wonderful.”
Like the rest of us, Doechii has every right to have a dating preference — her choice is her choice. She doesn’t owe anyone an explanation or an apology for that. And any heterosexual person who takes issue with that should look inward as to why.
Because the truth is, the overreaction to the rapper’s three-word response says more about so-called fans’ prejudices than her own character. That’s the real red flag in this callous debate.
