Yahoo Lifestyle Doctors Who Delivered Babies From Partners Who Were Clearly Cheating Are Sharing What Happened Next, And I Was So Not Ready For This
Bringing a child into the world should be a joyous experience, but what if the parents aren't entirely sure if the child is theirs in the first place?
Imagine your S.O. going into labor, only to leave the hospital unsure of whether you're the father of the baby. One Reddit user, u/NoTalentAzKlown, asked, "Doctors and nurses of Reddit who have delivered babies to mothers who clearly cheated on their husbands, what was that like?"
As you can imagine, some of these situations are downright messy. But for the most part, these stories are just devastatingly heartbreaking for all parties involved. Here are 15 stories from nurses and doctors:
Note: Comments have been edited for length/clarity. Some comments have been pulled from this Reddit thread and this Reddit thread.
1."I had a female patient come in with abdominal pain. Pregnancy test was positive. She was with her husband who, evidently, had a vasectomy about a year prior."
"I slowly backed out of the room after that one."
2."Anesthesiologist here. C-sections are typically done under spinal anesthesia, and we're the ones at the head of the table keeping the mother calm and talking her through the procedure while the surgeons operate."
"I've seen it more than once, but I remember one in particular when the parents were both very Caucasian, and the baby was very much not — the actual father obviously had to be very dark-skinned. At delivery, when the not-Father saw the baby he just looked down at his wife (who was starting to cry) and calmly said, 'You f*cking wh*re,' and walked out.
She started screaming for him to come back, but there wasn't much she could do since she was, you know, still being operated on. She lost it to the point I eventually had to sedate her a bit because she was in danger of injuring herself.
As far as I know, her husband never came back to the hospital. I don't know what happened after that."
3."Sonographer here. Antenatal scans. Several occasions performing the dating scan. Informing the happy couple of due dates and current weeks. 'But that’s not possible,' says the father. I explain dates, calculation as compared to rough dates of conception. 'But I was away in XXX for XXX weeks. IT ISN’T MINE.' Bad atmosphere. Or partner walks out. On one occasion, an Asian guy stood up, said, 'I divorce thee,' three times, and walked out. You develop a sense for the ones where paternity is in doubt even before you start the scans."
4."Med student. Had a mother who was A- blood type and a father who was A-, but the baby ended up being A+. The mother was asking if it was possible for this to happen, and the doctor kind of implied that it was possible (to my surprise since it's not meant to be). However, they suggested retesting the husband's blood group and following up with their GP. The doctor told me after that they didn't want to get involved and would leave it up to the GP to deal with, and just hoped the husband was actually positive."
"It apparently got awkward the next day (they stayed for a couple of days after due to complications) when the husband was asking about blood grouping and was just strongly suggested to get retested.
I never found out what happened after, but from my impression of the mother and some of the things she said, I am pretty sure she cheated."
5."Paramedic here. Our crew delivered a full birth in the back of our rig. We had two paramedics in the back with the PT and a driver, and I was working on the laptop listening to info they were telling me to add to the report. All of a sudden, it got kind of quiet. I heard the mother let out a very loud 'Oh shit, it’s not white!' (She was very white)."
"Few more seconds of silence, and I’m like, '?'
The driver alarm (beeping light on the center console sent from a button in the back) was pressed two times quickly, generally meaning to turn around to get info for the report. I turn from the front passenger seat to see a very dark-skin-colored baby. I can’t see the mother's face, but I see her shaking her head. She begins to worry, saying her husband is meeting us there at the hospital; he can’t see this!!! I just continued the report not sure what the problem is, but I guess we’ll see when we get there.
Flash forward to the ER, we stop outside the ambulance bay, I get out to open the doors, and am met by another very white heavyset guy in a uniform shirt, dress pants, and glasses, asked me if his wife was in there and she was in labor when he was coming home.
Hospital policy dictates that we can’t have random people whose identities we can’t confirm that close to the rig when opening doors for PT safety. Security is there quickly, but holds him back a bit. We open the doors and roll the PT and her newborn out. He takes one look, sees the color of the baby,
JAW DROP, LOOK OF DESPAIR. Like a 1000-yard stare. Even security had a look like, 'Wow, that woman fu*ked up, and this guy knows it now.'
Wife: 'BABE, I can explain every bit of this!!! I know it looks weird, but I can!!!!'
We wheel her into the ER. No sign of the husband. Last I knew, the husband didn’t check into the hospital as a visitor. I’m assuming he went home to pack his stuff."
6."Worked in the army hospital on Ft. Lewis. A woman came in for belly pain, and we found out and told her she was 10 weeks pregnant. The husband at the bedside started laughing, grabbed his coat, and left the room, explaining to us that he had been in Afghanistan 3 weeks prior. He looked back at her and just said, 'Well, that’s that Brittany.'"
"I always liked how classily he left her while she just silently stared off into space."
7."Midwife from Australia here. Wildest delivery I attended was a G17, P15 (pregnant 17 times, 15 live children as a result of those pregnancies), and three different 'dads' turned up over the short course of her labor with baby number 15. They proceeded to have a fistfight about who the 'real' father was, and I had to call security to escort them out. Then followed with a call to child services."
8."I’m an OBGYN. When I was a resident, we induced a woman who stated she was 41 weeks (1 week past her due date). Her labor went surprisingly quickly, and when I delivered her baby, I immediately knew something was wrong — the baby was extremely tiny, clearly not a full-term infant. We called the NICU team right away, and after the delivery, went digging deeper in her chart."
"This woman had had her prenatal care elsewhere, and had claimed that her due date was always the one we had listed. It’s standard practice to confirm dating with an early ultrasound if possible, and she'd had an ultrasound, but her prenatal provider must not have looked at it closely. When we finally found the original ultrasound report, it listed her as having a due date 10 weeks later than we thought...so we had just induced her at 31 weeks (6 weeks premature).
We went in to confront her, and her partner was sitting there, processing this information. Turns out, he was 'away' (Philly-speak for 'in prison') when the baby must have been conceived. He threw a bottle of soda across the room and had to be escorted out while we explained how the woman had put the baby in danger by getting us to deliver it early.
I think the baby did well, but it definitely had to spend several weeks in the NICU. We always confirmed dating ultrasounds or did a growth scan if there wasn’t one in the chart for future patients."
9."I had a patient who came to the ER for a UTI with her boyfriend of four months. She was 19. Acting extremely dramatic for just a having UTI. We tell her we need urine. She urges us to catheter her, which is really unusual but she says she can’t pee, so me and the other nurse assume the position to put in a catheter with her lying on the gurney. At this point, the nurse screams, 'Call labor and delivery!! She’s crowning!!'"
"The labor and delivery nurse gets in just in time to grab the child as it shoots out into her hands and is a living, breathing baby.
The girl swears she had no idea she was pregnant. They wheel her off to postpartum, and the guy is just kind of left standing there, dumbstruck.
'We've only been dating four months. I had no idea she was pregnant. She never mentioned it at all.' He just buried his head in his knees while he was sitting on the floor against the hallway wall.
I felt so bad for the guy."
10."In Missouri, you can’t get divorced if you’re pregnant. Yeah, I know. Women’s rights, who needs them, right? "
"So we will occasionally get a couple in the process of divorce but not divorced because of this law, and both the husband and the boyfriend are there for delivery. Awkward to say the least."
11."We had a very sweet blonde-haired, blue-eyed mom and dad along with their entire extended family in the room for a delivery one busy afternoon at work (think aunts, uncles, cousins, grandma and grandpa too). The baby is born, and as the doctor places her on the mom’s chest, the first words out of her mouth are, 'That’s not my baby! That’s not my baby!'"
"The baby in question, still attached at the umbilical cord, has beautiful dark curly hair, and dark skin. The nurse looks at her and tells her that this is definitely her baby because, 'she’s still attached to you,' and she, not so quietly, tells the nurse, 'There’s no way, I never slept with a Black man! It’s not mine!'
The 'father' is standing there silent, not sure what to do. A long, awkward silence fills the room.
We clean her and the baby up as cheerfully as we can. We see the extended family filter out of the room and the 'father' leave to get a cigarette. About ten minutes later a tall Black man walks up to our front desk asking how to get to the patient in question’s room."
12."I was a phlebotomist. Went to draw a baby and a nurse holds up a little baby and says, 'Does he look Black?' I laughed and said, 'No, look at that red hair!'"
"Apparently the mom was white and the husband was Black. But he’d been in jail, and she had been accused of cheating with a white guy. Guess they found the proof. She confessed right in the delivery room that it wasn’t his."
13."Super awkward for everyone involved. The husband was only in the room for a bit, then left, and I didn’t see him again. The baby's father showed up after the baby was born. I’ve also had where they didn’t know whose baby it was, so both guys were present to see whose they thought it was."
14."Labor and delivery nurse here. I had a lady who was induced for her third baby. Usually, by the third, moms aren't that nervous, but this lady's nerves were out of this world. She kept asking if we knew what time the baby would come and asking for a vaginal exam. The husband was there through it all and was very loving. When the husband stepped out to get something to eat, she told me she had gone to the Dominican Republic and had slept with a white guy and that she knew the baby wasn't her husband's. I wasn't there to deliver her, but I heard the baby came out looking dark, so IDK if the guy ever found out. Poor guy seemed clueless."
15."When I was a nursing student, I had an OB clinical with a pregnant woman who thought the epidural was some kind of 'truth serum.' When her boyfriend left the room, she shouted, 'Oh no, these drugs gonna make me say things I'm not allowed to say!' The anesthesiologist just kept saying, 'Ma'am these drugs don't affect what you say. If you say anything inappropriate, that's on you.' Then the mother just screamed, 'Don't let him look at my phone when he comes back! This ain't his baby, but I need his money!' The anesthesiologist pulled me out of the room because he wanted to laugh and then told me that's why I should be in anesthesia, because I would get to sedate the wild patients."
16.Did any of these stories shock you? Do you have a similar story? Share it all in the comments.
