10 firestarters to add some heat into your relationship

Move... together with a slow dance or go for a walk holding hands.

Read... erotica aloud to each other.

Brush... her hair, massage her head, stroke her back – even while watching TV.

Undress... her slowly or stage-direct a striptease (if she’s up for it).

Offer... to light the candles in the bedroom, creating an atmosphere for her pleasure.

Pour... one alcoholic drink (no more) and choose a few select yummies.

Kiss... and then kiss some more.

Play... the ragdoll game (one of you just lies there while the other slowly and gorgeously explores the other’s body).

Watch... an erotic/romantic movie (not porn, unless she’s into it).

Laugh... because it puts you both in the right frame of mind. “Humour is based on novelty, the unexpected, which raises levels of dopamine in the brain,” explains biological anthropologist Helen Fisher.

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