Yahoo Lifestyle Women Revealed How Their Love Lives Changed After Having One-Night Stands, And It's Suuuuuper Enlightening
Recently Reddit user FullBrother9300 asked the women of the community, "[If] you fell in love with a one-night stand, what happened after?"
Welp, their one-night stands brought on a tonnnnn of life-changing experiences, whether they were excruciatingly painful or downright lovely.
So, here's what actually went down after women had one-night stands:
Note: Some submissions include topics of domestic abuse and drug abuse. Please proceed with caution.
1."The sex was intoxicating, so we continued to see each other. It developed into a relationship, and I fell in love (though, looking back, it was more infatuation than anything and love with unhealthy attachment). We were together for a year or so and broke up on three occasions during that time. We ran into each other a couple of years later and started having sex casually. It was extremely addictive, and after 10 more months of this, I finally came to terms with how much of an asshole he is and broke off all contact. It was unfortunate that often the best sexual chemistry is with people who are terrible for us."
2."That jerk ruined all of my plans. I was supposed to be single until my mid-30s, have a career and explore the world. Instead, this asshole shows up and we fall in love. We move in together, see the world together, support careers together, and build a life together. Now this damn one-night stand has me baby trapped and happily married a decade later. I love him so much — the absolute audacity!"
3."He called me the next day (at 7 a.m. when he left at 5 a.m.) and asked to see me again that evening. I said yes, he never left, and we’ve been in love ever since. We've been married for almost eight years, and even figured out how to open businesses together because after all this time, we don’t even want to be in different rooms during the day 😍."
4."He was handsome to me, but he felt self-conscious about his physical appearance. We were able to completely lose ourselves in one another once we were in bed, but he didn't think I was serious about being serious. Truthfully, it was all about how he was with me. He was a monster of a man both in height and below. It took one comment from his brother who told him there was no way a girl like me would be interested in someone like him, and then he dumped me."
5."We became each other’s in-between sex friends until the last time when he ghosted me and started dating someone else. I didn’t care about dating someone else — I knew by this point he and I would never be together. We weren’t even compatible. It was the ghosting me and having so little respect for me that he couldn’t even tell me he had a girlfriend."
6."He fell in love at first sight. He literally called and texted all of his friends to let them know. And then he invited me over for the next two months before asking me to be his girlfriend. Now I just woke up in our bed in the city we moved to to start our lives together."
7."I dug myself in deeper by going back for seconds and got (gently and kindly) rejected when I tested the waters re: anything further. This was forever ago, so I probably dealt with it like I dealt with any heartbreak: Listening to sad songs for a bit, and eventually getting over it."
8."I started to ask him (regarding our label), and he said it's just a one-night stand and it doesn't matter. I was hurt, but yeah — I've figured out my worth. He recently reached out to try hooking up with me, but I'm not letting my guard down anymore."
9."I was freshly separated from my bastard husband, and I wanted to try a one-night stand. We talked at first, and when things started getting heavy, I got nervous. I told him I wanted him to stop and that this probably wouldn’t go any further. He said, 'Thank god because I really like you and I thought this would only last one night.' We talked for eight hours until I had to go to work the next morning. We’ve had our ups and downs over the last three years, but ultimately, he’s the love of my life."
10."We've been together for over 15 years now. Both of us had recently ended really, really bad relationships — we both legit just wanted to have a one-night stand. Somehow, it turned out we were very compatible and couldn't get enough of each other (not just sexually). It took us MONTHS to even admit how we really felt (despite the fact it was pretty obvious, lol). It took us months because we had both been so determined not to be in another relationship right away."
"But, is what it is. We both realized we'd actually just happened to find the perfect person for us in that one-night stand. It definitely wasn't expected, but we've built a whole life together now!"
11."Oof — after our one-night stand, we wound up in this back-and-forth thing where he liked me, and I pulled away, then I liked him, and he pulled away. And it all culminated in this awful love. I think we came out with broken hearts, and our friendship was ruined. And for what?"
"I must have had the least self-respect between us because I let him use me as an emotional crutch. We slept together again in secret.
So after a few weeks, when I was out of the country and having my 'come to Jesus' moment, I ended it all. Then I started dating someone in his work program as a rebound, but the joke’s on me because me and that rebound are going 10 years strong now."
12."My first one-night stand turned into a seven-year relationship, and a separate one-night stand turned into a four-year relationship. I’m still friendly with both of them — they’re the longest partnerships I've ever had!"
13."He called me the next day to ask why I had snuck out at 4 a.m. because he wanted to see me again. We ended up dating, falling in love, and moved in with each other. A year later, I found a stash of heroin in his bathroom and spent the next three years in an on-and-off relationship with multiple relapses. Finally, I realized that this would continue to be my life if I didn't leave. I broke up with him, my career took off, and I moved to a different city. Four years later I'm in a good spot in my life. I fell in love with my best friend, and we have a great life together. Last I heard, my ex is still the same — it's a shame he couldn't get his life back on track because of his drug addiction."
14."We were acquaintances, though I'd seen him around and tried asking a friend to have us 'run into each other.' I'm unsure of the timeline, but he didn't seem interested. I stopped trying but never stopped hoping, and made sure to talk to him whenever we were at the same functions. He met another girl, they moved in together, and now they're happily married."
"He was a really great guy. He had good character and work ethic and was honest, and we shared the same values and interests.
Maybe I should have texted him soon after the deed. I really regret not getting to explore things with him — I'm not surprised someone else snatched him up, but it's honestly been hard to deal with."
15."Eight years later after our one-night stand, I just left our marriage and am a single mom of two. I couldn’t keep walking on eggshells or overlook his fundamentally hateful nature, so that's why I left."
16."My last ex was supposed to be just a one-night stand. He was and is still my coworker. We ended up having a wonderful year of dating but broke up due to long-term incompatibility. It broke open my entire world, and I nearly 'lost all my marbles.' But I’m okay now. I still miss the friendship we had, but I’ve moved on and can look back on it fondly. I just hate seeing him at work…but I don’t regret having taken that risk."
17."We saw each other very infrequently for about six months, and it imploded horribly because we had different emotional needs that just didn’t fit together at the time. I still think about them, and it’s been several years. I hope they’re well :(."
18."I'm currently in love with him, but he just told me we can’t be together because he has commitment issues (and so do I). We still talk and are very close. It hurts because, in the short time I’ve known him, he’s seen a side of me that takes years for partners to see due to a rough childhood. We’ve bonded so much over all of the issues we’ve gone through. It’s quite aggravating how well we understand each other, and yet, we can’t be together. I suppose two 'damaged' people aren't good for each other."
19."We dated for a bit after our one-night stand, and then he had to move for work. I was devastated. We didn’t talk for almost a year until he reached out to me when he was back in my area. We are on good terms now, but he is gone again due to work. I will say I think about him all the time — he was just in my dream."
20."It led to two years of toxicity. He's still the person I love the most in the world and still the person I hate the most in the world. I'm sure I wouldn't change the one-night stand or relationship, though. My relationship with him taught me a lot about myself, got me into therapy, and I'm a much better person now."
21.And finally, "We met at a work party of mine and went home together pretty wasted. The hangover the next day (and my anxiety) got to me, and I avoided him for about a week or so. But then we started hanging out and ended up dating for close to a year. We were broken up for over a year because I moved out of state and traveled solo. But we actually got back together this past weekend! You know what they say: If you love something, set it free. And if it’s meant for you, it’ll come back."
Note: Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
