Yahoo Lifestyle Woman Discovers Her Ex’s New Girlfriend Has Been ‘Creeping’ on Her Social Media for a Year: ‘I Felt Utterly Sick’
The woman told Mumsnet users that the new girlfriend “denied it all” when confronted and “pretended to not know who I was"
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Woman looking at her phone (stock image)A woman has discovered that her ex’s new girlfriend has been “stalking” her online for over a year — and she’s struggling to understand why.
The woman detailed her experience on the “Relationships” forum on Mumsnet.com, a place where women can go to seek advice about personal dilemmas. In her post, which she titled, “My ex's new partner has been stalking me online for their entire relationship,” the woman shared that her 45-year-old ex-boyfriend — who she considered the “love of her life” — broke up with her “out of the blue” 18 months ago.
She said his reasoning was “very vague,” though he claimed something was “missing.” She added: “I had no idea anything was wrong and I utterly adored him so I took it really really hard, especially as he had told my friends and family he was going to marry me.”
The OP (original poster) went on to write that her ex had a new girlfriend — who is 18 years his junior — within three months. “[It's] basically like I’ve been cut and pasted from his life,” she added.
She additionally shared that her ex — who she also works with — acts strange around her at the office, “[diving] into the nearest cupboard when he sees me, even now after all this time.”
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The OP said that despite the “trauma” and “panic attacks” caused by the unexpected heartbreak, she has since “picked myself up” and is doing well. The issue? She said her ex’s new girlfriend has been “creeping” on her online.
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“Since he met this new person I’ve noticed weird things [...] on my social media,” she explained, adding, “Odd burner accounts, weird friend requests etc. This has now been going on for a year.”
She continued: “The other day curiosity got the better of me and I [Googled] the name of one of these strange accounts and a business phone number popped up on the results. Curious, I added the number to my contacts to try and figure out who it was and lo and behold, WhatsApp brought up her photo.”
"I felt utterly sick knowing she’s been creeping on me all this time,” the OP wrote, before sharing that she ultimately decided to reach out to the other woman over WhatsApp. The OP said she wrote “something along the lines of, ‘Hi, I’m sure this is really embarrassing for you but you really don’t need to creep around with fake accounts. If there is anything you want to know or ask I am an open book. ‘ “
However, she said that the other woman “denied it all” and “pretended to not know who I was.”
The OP admitted that the whole situation has made her start thinking about her ex and wonder whether he’s happy with his new life.
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Woman sitting on a bed and thinking with cell phone (stock image)“If it was all sunshine and rainbows she wouldn’t feel the need to do this. Especially over such a long period of time,” the OP added, while further admitting that she would be open to getting back together with her ex if he was interested.
“I honestly believe he’s thrown everything away and will one day have a HUGE realisation he’s screwed up,” she wrote, before asking her fellow community members for thoughts on what she should do next.
The majority of commenters strongly advised the woman to try to move on with her life and to not read into the new girlfriend’s online habits.
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“Why would you want him back? He traded you in for the younger model so that is never going to happen. Delete him from your social media, ignore her (she is just curious) and go find someone new,” said one person.
“Block, block, block and focus on yourself,” added someone else.
Others reminded the OP that getting back together with her ex might not feel as satisfying as she imagines.
"You do realise that [if] you had him back it would never be the same? [...] Draw a line under all this and move on,” wrote another community member.
However, another user said that if the OP still has real feelings for her ex then there’s no harm in trying to have an honest conversation with him in order to find out if reconciliation is actually possible — “but remember he’s done it once, he may do it again,” they warned.
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