Help her feel sexier

By Ashley Balcerzak

Master the art of flattery: The way she feels about her body largely impacts her sexual satisfaction, according to a new Dutch study.

Researchers found that women who were comfortable in their skin reported more pleasure, more sex, as well as stronger orgasms, better natural lubrication, and less discomfort.

The down side: “A negative body image seems to impair the sexual response cycle, which may lead to pain and other negative experiences,” says study author Femke van den Brink, Ph.D.

Female sexuality is heavily dependent on meanings, social norms, and expectations, rather than physiological responses alone, says van den Brink.

Up her confidence by speaking up. A Men’s Health survey showed that 75 percent of the 1,300 women questioned gained sexual self-assurance from their boyfriends or husbands.

Compliment parts of her body that she may be insecure about—including her butt, thighs or waist—outside the bedroom, says Helen Fisher, Ph.D., author of Why We Love. Waiting for a not-so-sexy moment, like while the two of you are out grabbing groceries, only emphasizes your sincerity.

Another ideal time to shower her with praise is right after sex. If she knows you still find her hot with her makeup smudged and hair disheveled, that’s a real boost.