‘How entitled could you be?’ TikTok video on stay-at-home moms goes viral

Elizabeth Tenety

7 February 2025 at 12:58 pm·3-min read

At first, the TikTok video by UPS Driver J.R. Minton sounds like another tired rant about stay-at-home moms being entitled. Complaining. Ungrateful for the easy, “carefree” life their working husbands provide.

But plot twist: this video isn’t calling out SAHMs—it’s coming for the husbands who think their paycheck makes them the sole “provider.” And with nearly one million views, the internet is very here for it.

The call-out heard ’round the internet

In a scathing role reversal, the viral clip flips the script on the outdated idea that working husbands are the only ones “providing” for the family—while their stay-at-home wives “do nothing” all day.

“How entitled could you be?” the speaker begins, setting the stage for what sounds like a criticism of SAHMs. But quickly, it becomes clear: he’s talking about the dads who believe they’re doing all the work.

His words hit like a truth bomb:

“Your spouse is taking care of everything so that you can take care of one thing.”
“You get to live the life of a single, childless, carefree man because your wife was willing to take the financial risk of allowing you to be successful.”
“She provides childcare services, home cleaning services, medical services, food services, scheduling services… and you provide a paycheck?”
“And you have the nerve to call yourself the provider?”

Cue: mic drop.

The reality check stay-at-home moms have been waiting for

For years, stay-at-home moms have been dismissed as lucky, lazy, or even gold diggers for not earning a paycheck—while the unpaid labor they do is the very foundation that allows their spouse to succeed.

And the numbers back it up.

If stay-at-home moms were paid for their work, their median salary would be $184,000 per year, according to Salary.com.
Women still do twice as much childcare and household labor in most two-parent households—even when they work full-time, per Pew Research.
And while the number of SAHMs has declined since the 1970s, about 25% of all U.S. mothers still stay home to care for their families, according to Motherly research.

The internet’s verdict? About time

The comments section is flooded with women saying finally—because the truth is, this video articulates what so many have been trying to explain for years.

Running a household is a full-time job—one that doesn’t come with paid vacation, lunch breaks, or a boss to acknowledge your hard work. And yet, stay-at-home moms still find themselves justifying their existence, while their working spouses get all the credit for “providing.”

So, next time someone suggests a stay-at-home mom isn’t “pulling her weight”? Just send them this video. And maybe a list of everything she does in a day.

Sources:

Americans’ time at paid work, housework, child care. Pew Research Center. 2013. “Chapter 5: Americans’ Time at Paid Work, Housework, Child Care, 1965 to 2011 | Pew Research Center.”
SAHMs. FOX 13 News. 2024. “Report reveals stay-at-home moms nearly double among Millennials, Gen Z.”