Bride and Groom Set No Kids Rule at Wedding, Now Her Father-in-Law Is Taking Back His Promise to Pay for Celebration

A bride and groom have sparked some family drama after making the decision to have a kid-free wedding.

The bride detailed the situation in a recent post on Reddit's "Wedding" forum, beginning by explaining that she and her fiancé are set to be married later this year and had agreed after getting engaged that they would only invite adults.

"There are a number of reasons we decided this, but if we allowed all of our loved ones to bring their kids, we would have to invite 17 children under the age of 10," she explained. "We both feel that it would be less stress to have an adult event."

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After the bride and groom "very carefully" told both of their families, they seemed to "respect" the couple's decision and even shared their excitement about having a "date night" at the wedding. Only one person — the groom's sister, who has two daughters, ages 1 and 4 — took issue with the wedding plans, expressing her opinion that the couple would eventually change their minds.

When the couple sent out their save-the-dates, however, "things came to a head," the bride wrote. Her in-laws suddenly asked if they would at least allow their two nieces to come to the wedding.

"We respectfully stood our ground and said no," the bride recalled. "This ended with a yelling match, an ultimatum of my father-in-law refusing to come to the wedding at all and also revoking any money he had offered to contribute."

Now, the bride is feeling "heartbroken" for her fiancé and considering compromising "for the sake of [family] relationships." But "he is adamant about having no kids and is willing to let his family not come at all if they feel so strongly about it," she shared.

Looking for advice, the bride asked the Reddit community, "Has anyone gone through anything similar? Are we monsters for not wanting to make any exceptions?"

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In the comments, many people assured the bride that she and her fiancé are not wrong for "wanting your wedding the way you want it," while also acknowledging that children at weddings is a "really polarizing" topic.

"People feel strongly about it, and no one is technically right or wrong — it’s about preference," one person wrote. "Sounds like your in-laws are on the side of weddings are for family. And they’re not wrong to feel that way, even strongly. But they are DEFINITELY wrong to bully you. If they don’t want to come, they should just decline the invite without the extra drama."

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Another person took a different stance, sharing their opinion that "immediate family should be the exception" to the kid-free rule.

"The whole 'it’s all about us' vibe with weddings is difficult for me because for your family, they are really family events. They love you and want to be part of your big day," someone else chimed in, urging the bride, "Compromise if you can on this. I doubt you’ll regret the children being there, but you will definitely regret the angst and stress of the family tension."

Yet another commenter offered a possible solution to the dilemma. "If you want them at the wedding but not reception, set up a babysitter with pizza and movies for the kids in your sister-in-law's room. Adults can pop out and check on the kids during the ceremony," they wrote.

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