I'm A New Dad, And Here Are The 13 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before Embarking On This Journey

Becoming a new father opens up a whole new world in your life.

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I'm sure you've heard the sayings, read the cute poems, and scrolled through the in-depth social media captions before. Or maybe you haven't, and this is your first time reading up on what it's like.

Karlton Jahmal Herman

There really is nothing like it. And they say nothing can prepare you for fatherhood, but I'd like to say that's not true.

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Every baby is different, but we're all much more alike than we like to believe. All babies need love, guidance, acceptance, patience, and protection.

Being a new dad isn't easy, but it's worth it. Based on my own experience, here are 13 things I think every new father needs to know.

1.Be your partner's rock.

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2.Pick one task, and stick to it.

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3.Have a pamper party.

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4. Buy a push present for your partner.

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A push present is a gift you give your partner after they give birth. It doesn't have to be anything fancy (but it also could be, if you're into that kind of thing). The gift could be a pendant with your newborn's name or birthdate, a new super comfy bathrobe for lounging, or a postpartum massage. The price doesn't matter, just be thoughtful. A logical present like a heating pad made especially for new moms to soothe those sore places can really go a long way.

5.Try the shift method instead of tackling everything together.

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6.Keeping score is inevitable, but try not to bring it up.

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7.Learn how everything works.

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Don't depend on your partner to be the only person that knows how the bottle sanitizer works, or how to clean and sterilize a breast pump. From the car seat and stroller, to the breast pump and changing table, make sure you know how everything works.

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8.Try to work out.

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9.Read books and studies.

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10.Read your baby books.

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11.It can be an overwhelming time for new dads, but your happiness and well-being matter. Take time for yourself.

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12.Also, give momma some time to herself.

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13.And lastly, don't be scared to mess up.

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