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Cop a doodle do! Four morning sex tips

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Mornings can lack certain erotic qualities – you’re tired, your breath pongs, you’re wondering if you should wear stockings or if it’s a pants kinda day.

Worst of all, you haven’t had any coffee yet. So is a first-thing shag worth losing sleep over? Yes. Take it from me – blokes are always up for morning sex. We rise to the occasion when the sun does because our testosterone levels peak at that time of day. And here’s a little secret: a woman’s testosterone, which controls your sexual desire and satisfaction, also peaks in the morning. So it could be the very best sex of the day.

If you’re using one of the following excuses to avoid getting it on when you wake up, here’s how to kick your hesitation out of bed – and have fun keeping yourself in it.

Too groggy to get in the mood

As mentioned, women don’t feel as up-and-at-it at daybreak as men but, as well as that aforementioned testosterone peak to increase your sexual desire, you’ve got endorphins on your side in the morning.

“Women’s endorphin levels are at their peak between 9am and 10am, which roughly translates as, ‘Bring it on, big boy,’” says sex expert Claire Preen, author of 50 Shades of Chocolate.

To get your head around where your hormones are at, ask your man to describe what’s going on down there and what he might like to do about it. “You may be surprised how a little sweet talk can turn you on,” says Dr Tammy Nelson, author of Getting the Sex You Want.

If you’re the type who needs coffee to kick you into gear, you might prefer positions that require zilcho exertion. Nelson suggests the can-opener position: missionary with one leg bent upward, maybe even resting on his shoulder. “This allows for close and deep penetration without too many gymnastics,” she says.

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Too rushed trying to get out the door

To enjoy sunrise sex, you have to chill out. Nelson says, “For women to reach full levels of arousal, they need to be relaxed, but many tell me they’re already thinking about their day when they wake up; worrying about getting up and out,” says Nelson.

To stay what she calls “sensually focused”, break the habit of checking your emails, Twitter, Facebook, etc, on your phone while you’re lying next to us in bed. Reading the report that your insomniac colleague sent late the night before isn’t going to light anyone’s fire.

If you still feel too rushed, trick yourself – after all, we all set the alarm early so we can hit snooze once, twice, thrice...why not do it for sex too? Regena Thomashauer, sex educator and author of Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts: Using the Power of Pleasure to Have Your Way with the World, recommends couples set their alarm an hour earlier once a week specifically so they can stay in bed. Just choose the right day of the week – Preen points out that while Mondayitis trumps horniness, she loves a Friday-morning romp.

Bad breath

If your fears about morning breath kill the mood, I can attest that men also feel self-consciousness about these things. So keep a tin of mints by the bed for both of you, and a bottle of water – moist mouths collect less bacteria.

Another way to skirt the breath issue: skip kissing altogether. Sex educator Lux Alptraum recommends a cowgirl position position with you on top facing him. Or, if you’re ready to rise and shine, stand up and let him take you from behind. To compensate for the lack of kissing, she says, this position allows “plenty of opportunity for him to whisper all sorts of sexy things into your ear”.

It’s too bright!

Candlelight is sexy. Stark daylight doesn’t do it for everyone. Though I’ve got to admit I do like to see what I’m working with. And it’s important, at some point in a committed twosome, to bare all in the full glare of day. If you’re self-conscious about your body, be a master of the semi-cover-up.

“If you’re not ready to go for all-out exposure, keep the sheet on part of your body,” says Nelson. “Wrap a blanket around your legs – or welcome him under your tent of blankets. Sometimes you’ll find that the sheets come off or the tent ends up on the floor.” And there you are, in all your morning glory.

5 more reasons to have sexfast

Why you shouldn’t limit your sex life to after dark, according to clinical psychologist and sexologist Dr Shannon Chavez.
1. Being well rested is one of the best aphrodisiacs.
2. Sexual fantasies and dreams are directly linked to more sexual desire.
3. Zero alcohol means you’re not suppressing things you need for great sex: energy, blood flow and pumping hormones.
4. Men’s higher testosterone level means his erection should last longer.

5. Have a full day in front of you? Sex can help you stay more focused and calm.

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