A woman has opened up about her decision to take motherhood into her own hands after eight years of failed dating experiences.
British personal trainer and vlogger Emily Hartridge opened up in a piece for The Sun about the moment she decided to take a big step to ensure her future as a mother.
“After spending eight years being let down, ghosted, and lied to by hopeless men on dating apps, I refused to miss my chance at motherhood,” the 34-year-old wrote.
Emily said her last serious relationship ended in 2011 and she was single for two years before deciding to try Tinder, because some of her friends had been able to find partners through the app.
It was there she discovered the world of ghosting, but said she “refused to be disheartened”.
Emily went on to detail one date where the guy she met ended up being nothing like his profile image or description. And another date where she was greeted by the guy grabbing her on the behind.
“I was so appalled, I chucked my wine in his face and stormed out. That night I decided to quit dating apps in the hope that I’d meet someone nice in real life who I could have a child with one day,” she explained.
“However, as I tried to convince myself that at 32 I still had time on my side, I couldn’t ignore the niggling thought that it might not happen.”
It was a friend of hers that had initially looked into egg freezing, but Emily couldn’t afford the procedure at first. Thanks to her mum however, who offered to pay for the process, Emily was advised to start treatment right away with three rounds of egg freezing at a cost of almost $30,000.
It turns out it was through this process that Emily also found out she had low fertility levels.
“I’m so glad Tinder made me turn to egg freezing — it revealed my low fertility levels in time for me to do something about it,” she revealed.
Funnily enough, Emily is also currently in a relationship. She said she met fellow PT Jake just before she had her first egg removal procedure. And he has been very supportive throughout the whole process.
She has also been sharing her egg-freezing journey on Instagram, with photos and a series of “egg diaries” videos.
Emily had her first egg-freezing in November 2018, another round in February this year and is due to have her final one in June.
“It’s early days for me and Jake, so we haven’t discussed having kids yet, but hopefully in the next few years I might have a child,” she said.
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