A woman has caused a debate after complaining that her ex is an “idiot” and she is “worried about the impact of his influence” over her seven-year-old son.
The woman explained on Mumsnet that she split up with her ex-partner when her son was a baby. She has described the past six years as “turbulent”.
“I don’t want to confuse my son [sic] with two polar opposite parents,” she wrote.
“I don’t want to obviously undermine his dad but the man is an idiot and I don’t want my son [sic] to grow up following his ways.”
This sparked a debate amongst other users, with some suggesting she should try to minimise contact between her son and his father.
“I would try to minimise his contact with him. Without stopping it or obstructing obviously,” one commenter said.
The woman also described her ex’s new partner as “lovely” and many of the users used their own experiences to reassure the anxious mother.
“If the new partner is lovely, there is a good chance some of her loveliness will rub off on your ex. I’ve seen it happen to my own brother,” one person said.
“My ex now has a lovely new wife and it makes me feel quite reassured,” another said.
Many of the comments encouraged the woman to keep doing what she’s doing.
One popular piece of advice was from a person who said: “You won’t be able to change his parenting style. You just have to continue parenting as you do and instilling good moral values.”
Another commented: “Your son has apparently had this bad influence from his father for all these years, but he is turning out fine. If he isn’t badly affected after 6 years of this, I’d say that things are OK.”
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