Why the internet is so stinking happy for Selena Gomez

Selena Gomez is engaged to record producer Benny Blanco – and many can't stop smiling.

"Selena Gomez is finally getting her happy ending," one X user wrote. "Everybody is supporting and celebrating our girl and her engagement," another added. "Selena is so beyond loved and adored."

These reactions make sense when you think about what the 32-year-old "Only Murders in the Building" star has gone through in her life. Her mental health struggles. Her battle with lupus. Her public relationship and breakup with Justin Bieber.

Some, though, have expressed confusion over the course of the relationship. "Selena Gomez marrying Benny Blanco is the equivalent of the hottest girl in college getting together with the most random unexpected guy," an X user put it – a more tame critique than others who've written more shallow remarks.

Whatever you think of her, it makes sense you might to try and connect your life to hers in some way if you're at all tuned in with celebrity culture. We see ourselves in celebrities to make sense of our own lives.

"What comes with being a 'people's champ' like Selena Gomez, is that, I think that on the one hand, you have a lot of fans who are excited for her because of all the struggles she's had and the personality that they presume that she has because they've grown up watching her," says Kevin Chapman, founder and director of the Kentucky Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders, "but on the other hand, they presume they know what's best for her in terms of the type of potential partner that she could have in the future."

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'I've never seen her look this happy'

If you're feeling a type of way about her engagement, remember comparing yourself to someone else is normal. But it can easily get out of hand.

"Particularly, in the digital age of social media, where people are inundated with unrealistic beauty standards and expectations in the form of filtered images to convey picture-perfect lives can cultivate an unhealthy and negative space fueled by feelings of inadequacy, low self worth and mental health concerns like depression and anxiety," says Chase Cassine, licensed clinical social worker.

Perhaps that's why people who have been paying attention are so invested in Gomez, though. Her happiness in her life comes amid all the pain she's experienced including her bipolar disorder diagnosis. The two can co-exist.

"I felt like once I found out what was going on mentally, I found that there was more freedom for me to be OK with what I had," Gomez said several years ago at the White House. "Bringing attention to mental health through media or just talking about your own journeys can help. It sets the example that it's a topic that can and should be discussed freely and without shame."

Her most loyal fans have gone on this journey with her and are over the moon. "In all my 15+ years of stanning Selena I’ve never seen her look this happy," one X user wrote.

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Stop projecting onto Selena Gomez

Haters about Gomez's relationship with Blanco might want to take a step back, Chapman says. Projecting how you would live her life doesn't add anything to the conversation.

He recommends fans be flexible in how they view her.

"Fans tend to view her life as one that's idealistic," Chapman says, "and I think what comes with that is a lot of scrutiny."

This article originally appeared on USA TODAY: Selena Gomez engagement draws happy, skeptical reactions