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Confessions of a Porn Star

January 6, 2010, 12:00 am Annette Dasey whomagazine

OK, there is a lot of sex, but her industry isn’t all drugs and rock and roll, says this introspective adult actress

Confessions of a Porn Star
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Growing up in California’s sunny Sacramento, tomboy Sasha Grey didn’t dream of becoming a model, teacher or lawyer. Her fantasy job was much more original: porn star. “I was watching a lot of porn,” says Grey, 21, casual in a meeting room at Sydney’s Hilton Hotel in black jeans and a polo neck, her only concessions to glamour her heels and kohl-rimmed eyes. “I did seven months research, read interviews with adult stars, took notes and weighed up the pros and cons.”

At 18, with a list of what she saw as positives (including proving women have a taste for perversion and satisfying her sexual appetite, which includes a penchant for violent sex), Grey set out for Hollywood. “I told my mum I was going to LA to act but two weeks later told everybody [the truth],” says the Los Angeles resident, now one of the porn industry’s biggest stars after making more than 150 films and winning numerous adult-industry awards. “I got into it to challenge the way things were done from a creative standpoint. I also wanted to be able to explore my sexuality in a controlled and safe environment.”

Highly ambitious, she also explores other creative outlets, including making her mainstream debut in director Steven Soderbergh’s The Girlfriend Experience as a high-class hooker who offers men the full relationship experience. “She is absolutely in her element,” said Soderbergh. “That only comes from being in situations like that and being in control. It’s kind of awesome.”

Grey thinks so, too. She feels empowered by her job and believes society “is ready for [groups of sexually aware women] who can say, ‘We enjoy doing this — you don’t have to be ashamed.’ ” OK, but what’s the sex like? “There is no time for build-up half the time, so I try to get myself into it, and the only time I fake it is if it’s soft-core, because it’s like, ‘Go. Go. Go!’ ” she says. “For the most part, even if you don’t have an orgasm, it’s still pretty enjoyable.”

And all part, she says, of a giant regulated industry. “The obvious stereotype is that everybody is on drugs and forced into it. I’ve seen a few things, but it’s not Boogie Nights.” Grey defends her profession against claims it is the same as prostitution, given porn stars are also having sex for money. “We’re tested [for sexually transmitted diseases] and they’re not, this is legal and that isn’t, and this is on film for an audience and that is just for one person,” she says. “But at the end of the day, it’s just what your morals are. Everything in life is a transaction. If you don’t make money out of yourself somebody else will.”

Which is why, in May, the guitar player in industrial-music collaboration Atelecine started her own production company, Grey Art, making porn. “I wanted to encourage women, ‘You don’t have to be afraid of your sexuality.’ I know—for so long I [felt] so guilty of the desires I had,” says Grey, who has “no idea” how many men and women she has slept with: “The male talent pool is much smaller than the female, so you generally are having sex with the same people.”

In her spare time, Grey hangs with friends and her fiancé, photographer Ian Cinnamon, 34, who was a friend from Sacramento. “We’re homebodies,” says the child of divorced parents, who dreams of doing the conventional marriage and children thing. “Generally we just watch a good film and relax at home.” And does Cinnamon get jealous? “No,” says Grey, adding with a laugh: “He actually said he can’t watch other porn now.” Today, though still starring in porn, most of her time is spent between directing and producing it. She is also writing a book on her philosophy of sex and graphic novels, plus putting together a coffee-table book of shots she has taken on adult sets.

Someone who’s not a big fan of her work? Her mother, a government staffer. Says Grey: “My mum obviously hated it and still isn’t totally OK with it. I’m not going to say, ‘F--k you! You don’t like what I do.’ I love my mum.”

The Girlfriend Experience is available on DVD from Jan. 6.

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  1. Michael03:04pm Tuesday 25th December 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    The young lady is working and paying her way in the world, not the way i would but if it her choice and there are people who wish to purchase her films who are we to say this is wrong?

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  2. Spook07:45am Friday 23rd September 2011 ESTReport Abuse

    I think she is right about someone is going to make money off you. I feel like my "corporate job" prostitutes me. I don't think I would ever marry a porn star, and I wouldn't want a porn star for a mother. Other than that at least she enjoys her job.

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  3. Obinna11:02pm Saturday 29th January 2011 ESTReport Abuse

    look miss, u don't know wat u r doing 2 urself and whether u lyk it or not, YOU ARE A PROSTITUTE WITH NUMEROUS AWARDS. SHAME.

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  4. WLT05:35pm Friday 03rd December 2010 ESTReport Abuse

    "Wants to have children" Please, she is truly demented. I've seen this "star's" work. It is as hardcore nasty as you can get. It would shock most people and sicken her mum. We're talking anal gang bang, bukkake and worse. I can't even explain here. And she thinks it's normal and healthy. The world has become a very sick and perverted place.

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  5. Samwise Gamgee06:39pm Friday 04th June 2010 ESTReport Abuse

    dude I think she degrades herself by doing what she does. This isn't right.

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  6. 06:21pm Sunday 07th March 2010 ESTReport Abuse

    whichway go & stick it up the cOUGAR she likes BLACK pole f/wit

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  7. 06:19pm Sunday 07th March 2010 ESTReport Abuse

    whichway U would get lost halfway arseho!e

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  8. 03:56pm Friday 26th February 2010 ESTReport Abuse

    Sinloi, you sound like a weirdo, colgate yeh apparently, a bang then it blows all over the place....

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  9. KellyG03:09pm Monday 18th January 2010 ESTReport Abuse

    I just can't fathom that you want to be a porn star, how many people will you have slept with? It's meant to be something for your special someone, but it some how stops being special when she can't even recall how many partners she has. Excuse me but it's the same as prostitution you are still getting paid for it, or do you just give it up for free now?

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  10. Tom02:58pm Sunday 17th January 2010 ESTReport Abuse

    american girl are so liberated that theydont respect thier prents wishes. that in sense destroy the essence of a FAMILY. We young ones rebel for the sake of geeting freedom. 60 years from now every Pornstar would look back on what they have done and for sure they would be proud of what it is

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