How to Enjoy Baby-Making Sex

January 14, 2013, 2:30 pm Elly Taylor, relationship counsellor Yahoo!7

Sick of sex on a baby-making schedule? Here are some ways to reignite the passion without sacrificing the end goal...

How to Enjoy Baby-Making Sex
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Working hard to get pregnant? Chances are you and your partner have everything planned down to the last tiny detail. But taking a somewhat rigid, scientific approach to sex can take all the fun out of it, and the added pressure can make it all seem like a lot of hard work – which can end up being counterproductive. Here are some great tips for making sure the spark’s still there, while boosting your chances of conceiving:

Get healthy

If both of you are fit, healthy and feeling good, you're more likely to initiate and enjoy regular sex. Have a chat with your GP and get treatment for anything that might inhibit conception, such as infections or vitamin deficiencies. And eating well can make you feel good and give you more energy!

Stress less

High stress levels may reduce your chances of falling pregnant, and common coping mechanisms such as smoking and drinking too many cups of coffee or glasses of alcohol can affect fertility levels, too.

Try to identify what's stressing you to see if you can eliminate or minimise the problem. If not, find alternative ways of managing your stress. Exercising and talking things through with your partner are great ways to start. The closeness that comes from emotional sharing and spending time together is good foreplay!

Clear the air

Emotional disconnection can cause the spirit of conception to be lost and frustration and resentment kill passion and desire. Talk things through and work towards solutions as a team – this will help you bond as a couple and is great practice for the family life that lies ahead.

Don't focus on sex

Celebrate your relationship instead. Spend time doing things you both enjoy and that bring out the best in each other. Think romantic evenings, adventure weekends, spontaneous activities or even just indulging in fantasies and whims. This way, enjoyable lovemaking will be more a natural progression of the day than a scheduled event on the calendar.

Go with the flow

Women tend to feel most aroused around the time of ovulation, and of course this is when conception happens. If you have sex less often at other times of the month, you may look forward more to making love during this period. Plan ahead in anticipation: buy something that celebrates your sensuality, plan a surprise for your lover, or organise a rendezvous.

Be mutually satisfied

Some research indicates that the more enjoyable the sex, the better the chances of conception. For women, the uterine contractions that come with climaxing can encourage those baby-making swimmers in the right direction.

Focus on each other's sexual needs rather than on the need to have a baby. And don’t worry about having to muster up the energy for swinging-off-the-ceiling-style sex: the missionary and ‘doggy style’ positions allow good penetration close to the cervix, and lazing about for a while afterwards can aid conception.


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  1. Anthony P12:40pm Friday 09th March 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    When I was 19 an old Greek I worked with advised me that " Babies are easy to make , hard to keep. ". He was a wise man. My advise, DON`T DO IT ! Keep the tens of thousands you will blow on a kid/s and spend it on yourself.

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  2. Ganga11:51am Friday 09th March 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    well, i have two beautiful baby girl who is 7 and 2 years but now i want to have a one more child as a baby boy so, can u tell me how to concept a baby boy ....can u give some idea please.

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  3. Ganga11:49am Friday 09th March 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    well,i have 2 beautiful girl now i want to have one more child as a baby boy .... so, can u tell me how to concept a baby boy can u give me some idea.

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  4. 09:56am Friday 09th March 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    don't do it a several time ,just do at at at a time. by do every day, there will be more population and no money to buy food for the kids. in order to serve the money, don,t do it regulary.

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  5. Stanley Pendleton09:28am Friday 09th March 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    Is there any chance to get her pregnant by cumming in her mouth?

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  6. Phil09:26am Friday 09th March 2012 ESTReport Abuse

    If having sex to reproduce is such a chore you're probably with the wrong person. Get a divorce. Don't bring children into your domestic mess.

  7. saif uddin04:52pm Thursday 25th August 2011 ESTReport Abuse

    I am making love with wife since a reason long time but still waitintg for the results I am banker much more tied when reached home at night.....................plesa advice.

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  8. Linda03:00pm Thursday 25th August 2011 ESTReport Abuse

    I'm 7 weeks and thought I'd never get pregnant but while we were on holidays, my fiance and I had sex every night we were there. In the bed, the spa etc. Within a month I found out I was pregnant and although it was planned it was very unexpected. I was ecstatic until the morning sickness hit.


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